Become your Own Best Friend…
Have you ever really thought about being your own best friend?
I believe that spending time with yourSelf is an incredible part of truly getting to know yourself and what is important in your life.
Like any relationship, if you do not hang out with yourself how will you get to know who you are?
The trick is, do you "spend time with yourSelf" or are you just physically alone but your mind has you everywhere else?
Interesting thought isn't it?
Really spending quality time with yourSelf helps to ground you in your life, it enables you to know where you are uncomfortable, where you are with peace, where you would like to heal or let go of the past and where you would love to nurture and grow.
At first you might find yourself unable to even be still, that you will keep thinking of things to go and do or people to reach out too. This happens because you have forgotten what it is like to simply “hang out with yourSelf!”
Spending time each day in the quiet stillness, aware of breath and feeling grounded in the moment, is such an important self-care health promoter. It is as necessary as brushing your teeth and showering.
How do you know if you are REALLY spending time with you? Here it is in three easy steps…
1. Ensure you are physically alone. 😉
2. Notice where your mind is. If it is anywhere other than where you are physically then you are not spending time with yourself. Your mind is stealing the time away from you and your nervous system is burning fuel. It doesn't need to think about past or future events of conversations, it needs to hang out with you right there in that moment that is meant to be nourishing and recharging you!
3. The mind is an instrument, it simply needs guidance and “tuning” to help to create a new habit. Begin to slow this overthinking, life-stealing mind away by befriending it with giving it something to focus on…you guessed it—your breath. Start with the simple sentence “I am breathing in….I am breathing out”….notice your surroundings, where are you sitting or laying, walking or whatever other activity you are doing. It won’t take long, but it will take practice.
Trust me, this simple habit of “spending time with you” is an absolute game changer.
You might even like to listen to my Inner Light Podcast, which is free, to help your mind to slow a little - Episode 3 Series 3 - “Why should we practice Mindfulness and Meditation.” Will be a great help.
If you have a mind that is blissfully quiet, easy to stop thinking, easy to fall asleep and you are full of joy, energy and enthusiasm for life, that is fantastic and you probably do not need any of the above. But if you find your mind is a little full, it is hard to concentrate, your energy is low and you feel a little numb in your everyday life, either fall into bed exhausted or struggle to fall asleep and wake up exhausted, then why not give it a try.
I’d love to know how you go. Always feel free to email me and let me know if it helped. If you want to chat about it, book a Clarity Session call so I can help you further. You will be able to book on the Contact page…
Have an amazing week, enjoy life!
Alli