Is it Fear or Truth Boundary
I hope this Blog finds you well.
Those of you who have been following me for a while know I am often discussing how important it is that we have a good relationship with ourSelf. That to know how we truly feel about things before communicating those feelings to others can be helpful in all relationships.
There seems to be so much talk about fear and overcoming fear, these days with busy lives, overfull schedules and "comparisonitis" it can leave us with a mixed feeling around what we are fearful of, what is the initial "uncomfortable" feeling of expanding into new growth and what a feeling of a personal boundary being challenged that our instinct is telling us (sometimes screaming at us) is not a good fit for us.
There have been many times in my life when fear jumped in front of me like the “boogeyman” and I learned to look it straight in the eye (mind you it didn’t happen overnight it took consistent practice!!) More importantly it took me to get to know "me," what were my true belief systems, what and why was I afraid to let the world see me. As I often share, most of these are learnt behaviours, outdated patterns that in this expanding consciousness we are being asked every moment to choose - "Do I keep this pattern because it is familiar and I know it, or is it time to leave it behind and allow myself to grow?"
Can you relate?
The purpose of this topic is to invite you to enquire a little deeper within yourself, if you have that feeling in your gut that is a mix of fear, dread, uncertainty or down right scared. Sit with it, invite the feeling in a little closer so you can get to know how you truly feel about the situation. Really FEEL from where you are in your life now, this moment, not from an old pattern, or comparison from a past experience.
Sometimes you will know it is just a fear as you move into new areas of growth, into new territory of yourSelf. Sometimes it may be fear of failure, possible embarrassment, but the more you remember that you are your unique amazing Self, and that all you are doing is bringing him/her/they to the table, then how can you fail? Give it your best, what more can be asked. The more you get to know youSelf the more you can identify when “comparisonitis is in the mind. Don't compare, don't let it hold you back, letting this go, will set you free to not only create, but live your dreams.
You can live knowing that you haven’t got all the answers, that life is here to be experienced and learned from, you might just find that sometimes you realise that the fear you felt, was actually a boundary of protection of your inner true core belief system. That your inner Self was guiding your actions to align more with your journey. When you have a good relationship with yourself and how you truly feel about things you may find that fear is not always the villain, that sometimes it is actually an ally that can nudge you (sometimes side swipe you!) back on your path.
So get to know fear in all its guises, remember it is malleable, sit with it, sit in your heart, free from judgment, really feel the emotion of where it is coming from and you will know and hear from deep inside you, when it is right and when it is down right alarm bells ringing to run!!
I hope you have enjoyed this topic, please be kind to yourself remembering that, we are here to experience life, not conquer it in one perfect leap.
Alli
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