Learning to Listen to Our Body…

Welcome to this week’s Blog.

Thank you, it was lovely to receive so many supportive emails of thanks for the content and gentle reminder that last week’s newsletter and blog nurtured.

It is strange how we often set up barriers and frustrations against our body’s “inability to cope” when in fact from a Vedic perspective our environment and our body - physical, mental, emotional - are all reflective of our everyday living. How we treat ourselves is how it is reflected back to us.

Those aches and pains are not there to annoy you, they are your body speaking to you, letting you know something isn’t quite right. Perhaps your toxicity levels are building causing your lymphatic system to be overloaded. Perhaps your emotions are not being dealt with causing you to tighten and expel more energy through your nervous system than you have in reserves. The list is endless of the things I could write here that perhaps may be causing you to experience aches, pains, anxiety or bloating.

So this week with continuing to support your deeper health I would like to discuss the “art of learning to listen to your body”. May I ask, how often do you sit with yourself, quiet, no external stimulation, learning to quieten the internal chat and just enquire how do I feel physically? How do I feel emotionally? Am I being true to my beliefs? Am I able to honestly communicate with myself how I feel?

In my role as a Vedic Counsellor and within my Program I often discuss the importance that clear communication with yourself being and the top of your list. If you do not know what your belief systems are, how your body is coping (or not), how to know whether you are tired and in need of rest. Or are you so used to pushing and “people pleasing” that you do not realise you are constantly pushing into depletion which is why your body aches, sleep is disturbed, digestion is poor and appetite is craving sugar?

All of these things are little snippets from your body to say “Hey we are not coping here are you listening?”

So my suggestion is this week, spend 2-3 minutes each day sitting with yourself and enquire within, how do I feel, questions like these might help to begin the inquiry.

Is feeling exhausted becoming my new normal?
Is skipping meals or eating on the run my usual way of eating?
Has falling into bed exhausted and waking up tired become acceptable?
Am I so wired that I only relax with a night's alcoholic drink?
Do I feel physically, mentally, and emotionally well?
Do I feel fulfilled and happy in my life?

All of these questions can help you to begin a dialogue for making small but consistent changes in your life. Life is here to be lived, enjoyed and celebrated. Don’t you deserve that?

If I can help in any way or you have any questions please reach out.

I believe in you, do you believe in yourself? Do you apply your own mask first? Or do you keep waiting for life to slow down, kids to be less demanding, workload to be easier? Perhaps that’s a question you need to really ask yourself? Why do you keep waiting to make proactive nurturing choices for yourself?

Be gentle with yourself, constant small steps in the direction of health. You will never regret looking after your health, but perhaps you might regret that you didn’t, once it’s gone.

Have a beautiful week ahead.

Alli

Prevention is Better than Cure…

Welcome to this week’s newsletter.  Well here in the southern hemisphere winter has certainly arrived.  I am sure you have all heard the topic heading "prevention is better than cure."  My question is how often do we practice it?  Remember my newsletter from a few weeks ago?  The Bank of Good Health?

What you may not be aware of is that promotion of prevention of dis-ease in the body truly is the Vedic way of living.  Ayurveda and Yoga both help us to keep our physical, mental and emotional bodies in clear states.  So I thought perhaps a few tips from the incredible "sister sciences" may help you in your immunity and health during winter.

Veda sees winter as "Kapha" month.  Meaning qualities of cold, damp, cool and moist are present.  We also understand the philosophy of "Like attracts Like."  Meaning, if you add more cold to something which is cold it gets colder.  Common sense right?  Well that is the funny thing we do not think of our gut, lungs and respiratory system in this way.  We often eat the same types of foods all year round and give little thought to the outer environment and temperature changes.

Immunity comes from the gut and keeping the environment healthy delivers optimal health.  Like goldilocks, we don’t want it too cold, or too hot, we want it like the three bear’s porridge, just right.  

So how do we do this for our optimal health?  Here are some tips to help.

·       Begin each upon morning with three deep exhalations to clear the lungs of stale air and ensure to wake the diaphragm.

·       Brush teeth on rising to remove toxic build up on the teeth.  (There are deeper levels available if you would like to know more please reach out via email admin@alligarison.com)

·       Eucalyptus steam inhalation (yes that good old practice) is wonderful for clearing and keeping our respiratory system in optimal health.

·       As we are in winter in the southern hemisphere, ensure to eat and drink warm nourishing foods to ensure a good temperature and environment in the gut and respiratory systems.

·       Avoid cold damp foods.  Occasionally are fine but if they are part of your everyday diet it is only a matter of time until too much cold, damp builds up and may assist deeper respiratory or immunity issues.  (For our Northern hemisphere friends it is opposite with you currently moving deeper into summer.)

·       Spend a few moments several times through your day to pause and take 3 mindful breaths in and out the nose.  We often forget to breathe well and this can build mucus in the system and may encourage disease.

·       Regular sleep.  Try as best to wake and sleep close to the same time each day.  Winter has shorter days to reflect a quieter pace, a time of nourishment, nurturing and rejuvenation.  Regular sleep is incredibly important for immunity and the body’s ability to heal.

These few suggestions are a way to begin to help you regain your health.  Prevention by the awareness of keeping the inner environment healthy. 

I will be chatting about some of these topics in upcoming Inner Light Podcasts so keep an eye out for them.

If you would like to know more or have any questions, you are always welcome to reach out for a complimentary clarity session via the website or email me.

Keep warm, well and have a great week.

Alli

The Language of Small Kids…

Thank you to everyone who has been reaching out for clarity sessions and sending emails of thanks for the topics I have been discussing. I never wish to bore anyone with my blogs, but rather begin those internal conversations that support positive change.

Life can reflect fast, demands, stimulation so much so that we can lose ourselves and our enjoyment in everyday life and the nourishment it can give.​​

The fact that you are reading this tells me you are over 18. So may I ask you, have you ever thought about kids of yesteryear?

Think back to the images of kids in the 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, and so forth. What image comes to your mind?

I see a simpler slower paced world.

A carefree freedom.

As a Mother and Grandmother I really see the changes we are expecting from the children of today. The way they are dressed is even different. Now I am not saying there is right or wrong or better or worse. What I am doing here is hopefully drawing your attention to a blur in the line that we have created that we have not even realised has been done and is even there; the blur between adults and kids to kids becoming “little adults”.

Kids used to be kids, they were dressed as kids, given free time as kids, made a mess, got messy, didn’t know about schedules, time, rushing or restrictions, commitments (until they were older at least). They were lovingly “kicked outside in the yard” for a reason, to be free, use their imaginations with a stick, leaves, ants, a ball or a piece of elastic (showing my age here!)

The language we used towards kids was vastly different to that of these days. Some of the language has changed for the better, some for the worst. I believe kids, thank goodness, are no longer believed to be “seen not heard.” Whoever came up with that forgot what being a kid meant - kids want to be heard! They should be heard!

Kids used simple language and were spoken to in simple innocent ways. We sometimes forget that we may be speaking with our kids in terminology or language we use at work with colleagues/adults and then we may get frustrated when our kids don’t understand us, do what we asked or look at us weird.

With the technology advancement we expected the kids to change their vocabulary but that doesn’t necessarily mean they understand. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying kids aren’t smart. I believe the exact opposite and that is why I am sharing this with you.

We can learn so much from our children, their behaviour, their facial features as we talk to them. Ensure to look into the eyes of a young child as you are speaking with them, and you will see how much attention they are giving you. Listen to the language they use, or how they come up and touch you without saying anything, just a reassurance that you are there, that they are safe, that they are loved.

Kids ultimately live in the moment, in the NOW, unless we as adults teach them otherwise. It is funny if you think about it; how a child ultimately lives completely in the now, fascinated by a small ant walking across the concrete path and we are the ones rushing past telling them to “hurry up”. Then as adults, we spend much of our existence reading books, listening to podcasts or watching Youtube videos on how to live in the present moment! Crazy isn’t it?

We all know the saying that kids need love, kids need time. I also believe kids need to be allowed to be kids and in the current global situation be protected and nurtured to know life can be simple and beautiful and in the beautiful there is simple.

Kids are adults' greatest teachers if only we slow down enough to notice. Drop some schedules, give yourself some down time, let your mind slow and notice.

Have a great week and I hope you find your inner child this week and let them out for a play!

Alli

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Peace Comes From Within.

I hope your week is great.

Thank you to the emails of thanks and support you send. My intention with the Blogs are not to tell but perhaps begin an inner conversation with yourself. Subjects and topics that can expand and open your inner communication and result in an increase of peace and health in everyday existence.

This week, the topic is "PEACE". The saying “Peace comes from Within” is nearly as old as time itself. There are many great master teachers who have been quoted as having said it. To me, it doesn’t matter who said it or when, what matters is that we embrace its message of truth.

So I ask, how often do we as a society look externally for peace?

We may look for it in relationships, health, finances, material objects, situations or environment. Yet if one truly grasps what this ancient teaching is saying, it is absolutely life changing.

If you are truly with peace within yourself, your circumstances, relationships, employment, environment and so forth will no longer challenge you as deeply. Yes, if you are experiencing hiccups in life you may have frustration or sorrow, but if you do, tapping into the peace within you gives you strength and the courage to get through it. If the phase of your life is a wondrous time, the peace within you creates even more nourishment and joy.

The faster paced our life is the more it will create a fast, overthinking, striving mind. This can cause a void between what you want and what you actually need to experience happiness and connect with inner peace. The mind starts see-sawing between expectations and “comparisonitis” which can leave us feeling deflated and overwhelmed.

If we look to the "environment of life" being calm to deliver us peace and happiness, we can become disappointed, stressed or disheartened when life is not always easy. We may forget who we truly are and get caught in the old patterns of who we think we need to be or to keep recreating our life from the "clay and patterns of our past." Patterns and behaviours which may not serve us well anymore.

Finding and anchoring in the breath and peace within each day creates an ability to connect and ground with the strength of who you are. A little like the old oak tree which has its roots firm in the earth has the ability to sway and move in the storm but will not break, it remains rock solid in itself.

Connection of grounding with inner peace nurtures clarity, a knowing of your true beliefs and boundaries that align with you. It promotes clear communication, compassion, empathy, kindness and gratitude for yourself first and then the ability to share it with others.

Getting to know you, you trust yourself more, gain inner peace and begin to live your uniqueness. T

That you are amazing, living life through learning, not to be so hard on yourself that you can’t have all the answers. If you are unsure how to connect and ground each day, look at the resources on the website or email me for personalised tips. That is why we are here, to help you reclaim your health on all levels.

So in the week ahead, may you continue this week to truly give yourself the time, care, kindness, compassion, quiet and grounding that you deserve.

Your Life,

Your Story…

Your Destiny through Choice and action, not Chance…

Shine Bright,

Alli

You are your Greatest Project

I trust your week is flowing well.

I am often asked about my own journey and why I am a huge advocate for women to practice daily self-care, breath and centering (grounding) each morning.  I thought this week I would share with you something I noticed in my earlier years of becoming a mother, in the hope it will help inspire you as a woman to ensure you do give to yourself each day.

The younger me found myself constantly questioning why other mothers and I would talk about not having enough time, lacking self-care, feeling exhausted, having that sense that we couldn’t keep up and we were going under and drowning in our daily demands. As though it was normal—as if being a mother/woman meant we should expect to feel exhausted, busy and get use to putting ourself last.

For some reason it never sat right with me.   

I clearly remember early on after the birth of my second child (my daughter now 27) I was so overwhelmed trying to keep everything going, breastfeeding, night feeds, toddler-mum, working-mum, house clean, the list was endless of what and who I was trying to be.  One day my Mum said to me, “You seem like you are too hard on yourself.”  WOW.

In that simple sentence she gave me a realisation and she gave me permission: Who was I trying to be? Whose standard was I trying to maintain?

After that day I quickly found myself making different choices.  They were small and at times challenging or inconsistent but they were choices of doing things a different way, of not being so hard on myself.  When I was consistent with the alignment inside myself, life flowed easier, I felt lighter in myself.  When I dropped the consistency it didn’t take long until I realised I was back in the “drowning, lost feeling”.

It wasn’t until I had my third child (my daughter, now 22) that I really found my rhythm.  When I wanted it badly enough I did have the ability to create time for myself. And when I didn’t have time, (here's a truth bomb) -  it was because of my own subconscious self-sabotage patterns. So I tried to stop self-sabotaging (which is easier said than done!!!) I stopped trying to people please everyone. I didn’t always succeed but I kept constant, I kept trying.  

Then my fourth child came along (my son who is now 19).  That was another game changer!  I was so busy loving being a Mum to four beautiful kids 10, 8, 3 and 0 that I forgot about me again.  I knew she was in there somewhere, on the backburner just waiting until the kids got older, until the school holidays came, or until I life slowed and I could make time to catch my breath.

“She” waited on and off for about 3 years. She was patient, she was kind some days and quite loud and overwhelmed others.  Then one day I heard her loud and clear, it was time to not have “her” on the backburner, but to place her front and centre stage.  For if I was her, and she was me, and we did this thing called "life" together I would be the best person and version I could be.  The best woman, wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend and so forth - I would be my best version of me as a human.

So you see, that is why I am so passionate about asking “Why do women wait?”

• Why do women keep thinking a better time is coming around the corner?  

• Why do we think as a woman/mother/partner you put your personal growth, life, career and healing on hold while the kids are young or until the business is flowing better?

I can tell you loud and clear with four adult children, three grandchildren, extended family and a career life is NEVER on hold!!!  So take the time for you NOW, make the step forward, never think it is small or large, never think it is right or wrong.  Any mindful step towards caring for yourself is a step in the right direction…….movement.  That is what matters!

We are human, we are nature, nature grows, heals, transforms.  

As I say in my signature program The Transformation Project - YOU are your greatest Project! Why? 

Because you are here to live your greatest Self.

What steps in your life can you take to ensure you take time for you each day?  It doesn't have to be huge, start small work your way from there.  If you'd like help reach out to me.

Have an extraordinary week working with and on “your greatest project” - YOU and take my wise Mum's advice "Don't be so hard on yourself."

Alli

What is the Bank of Good Health

I wanted to start this week’s blog thanking you for the wonderful emails and messages I received thanking me for raising the importance of taking responsibility for the changes we wish to make in our life.  

I believe the topic I have chosen for this newsletter will help build on last week’s subject.  As I write this to you I find myself feeling a little tired and aware of just how big the last couple of years have been.  So I thought, why not chat to you about the Vedic way of understanding the “bank of good health.”

As an Vedic Practitioner (Practitioner of Ayurveda & Yoga)  I know all too well how important sustained good health is reflected by our daily choices.  The things we choose to think, our mindset, the foods we choose to consume, and how often we consume them and in what mental environment we do that.  It also depends on the actions we take; do we exercise, do we have down time or are we always stimulated and running on adrenaline?

The easiest way to share this with you is also the simplest analogy we can all relate to and it goes a little like this….

Have you ever had a loan?

If the answer is yes, great, if the answer is no, please imagine you have one.

You get given a line of credit (in this case it is your line of credit of good health).  

While you are young, it seems like you have SO MUCH to spend, and it almost even seems like you spend away and the balance doesn’t seem to even go down!  It is the perfect loan and you are not even being asked to make any payments as yet or give anything in return.

BUT as you get older the amount you spend becomes more evident, the reserves that seemed to easily replenish itself are now sluggish and sometimes not refilled at all.  We begin to see ourselves going into debt.

If we do not listen to the philosophy of being aware that our everyday actions have a huge impact on our health we will never truly take responsibility for our own health or the way we spend our good health until it is too late.

As we get older the “institution/bank” so to speak calls the loan back in.  If you have spent through overindulgence or ignorance of going into the constant overdraft of adrenaline, overthinking, poor eating habits, poor lifestyle habits which affect everything from hormone levels, cell regeneration to organ function, you will find it hard to pay the loan back and the body will reflect this in the form of dis-ease and fatigue.  You begin to see the “overspending” in the form of break-down within the body’s health.

My analogy above, hopefully helps you to realise that what I share with you about the simple things in life, breath, good food, rest, open communication and listening within yourself and with others, are not fantasies to think about doing in the future.  But are all things which are easily obtainable in the NOW.  They will reduce your spending on your health and better still give you outstanding interest/joy in your life.

I once heard a wise soul say - “human’s in their younger years spend their health to create wealth and in the older years spend all their wealth trying to regain their health!”

Food for thought - isn’t it.  I hope this newsletter helps you to realise how waiting until life gets easier or slower could be spending from your health.

Have a great week.

Alli

Are you connected to your rhythm?

Welcome to this week’s blog.

May is known as Mental Health Month, as we move into May I wonder how often you take time to assess and nurture your own mental health?  Often I find it is something people think they will do when life slows down.  Because it is not easily seen by others they often delay looking into it.  But how long do we wait, and what detrimental things are happening to your health whilst you are waiting?

I’d like to reflect on some simple yet powerful ways that might help you begin to nurture your health better.  

How is the change of seasons going for you?  For those of you here in the southern hemisphere we are well and truly into Autumn now with Winter fast approaching.  

Within the Vedic philosophies of which I am dual-trained, Autumn is a time of transition.  We begin to slow from the hectic fast pace of Summer/Christmas/NewYear and begin to gain momentum and settle in the routine of the kids back at school, the year at work and the flow of the middle of the calendar year.  Daylight savings ends and nature is beginning to reflect to us at a slower pace (well that is if we are noticing!).

As a Vedic Practitioner, one of the main things I see in the community and around the world is a fast paced, out-of-sync-with-nature lifestyle.  We have technology that keeps stimulating our brains until late at night, mobile phones which keep us constantly checking social media and creating an expected quick response to everything including our nervous systems.  This can greatly affect our ability to relax and gain a restful sleep.

Yet, nature, as she has done for literally thousands and thousands of years, reflects to us daily how to live an abundant, healthy life.  Understanding that impermanence, change, seasons, day and night, creation and evolution are all part of a natural existence.  Nature encourages when to be active when the sun is high in the day and when to slow when it is dark and it is night.

I reflect that once you become aware of something you are empowered to make a choice. 

If you feel you would like to slow your life down, look to nature, watch how the days are growing shorter and the leaves are starting to change.  A beautiful time of transitioning to a slower, more nourishing pace of winter.

Why not? Isn’t it your life, your choices to choose whether it is fast or slow?  

We often think we need to wait until a better time to create the change we long for; that a slower more nourishing paced life is for someone else to achieve or around the corner once we get a few more boxes ticked.  

Yet doesn’t change occur because you take a proactive step towards it?  Isn’t your mental, emotional and physical health important enough to place first?

I hope the week ahead nourishes you deeply because of the choices you choose to make.

Take care,

Alli

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Change is Natural. Can you embrace it?

I hope your week has been a good one.

A common topic in the last week for women reaching out for a clarity call is the question “How can I learn to be comfortable and positive when unexpected change keeps happening in my life?”

It is an interesting question isn’t it?  

We as humans have an idea of the way life “should be”. We set goals, ideas, expectations. 

I have shared with you previously that my life had a huge positive shift the moment I let go of goals and embraced living with intentions and noticed how life and unexpected changes could prove to be advantageous, rather than me thinking things were going wrong.  

What is wrong? I realised the only reason I thought it was “wrong” was because I had a subconscious need to control to make the “goal” I had in mind become a reality.  When in fact if I let go and let things unfold naturally with positive and consistent input from my actions I found that the natural course unfolding was actually going to gift me a far greater outcome than my original idea. This can be applied from daily situations to the big life changing ones.

So may I ask the question, what actually identifies that something is “wrong” or “not what we expected.” Is that a concept or control of the mind of where we think life, our relationships or business should be?  

Nature is always reflecting to us impermanence, change, nature grows, as does life. If we look at the philosophies of which I am trained and base my lifestyle and work on, we will see that flow, change and allowing that change to happen is a liberating way to live.  

We are in a time where holding onto who we have been in the past may hold us back. It is one of my fundamental teachings within my program how to learn and live with the understanding that we are living a blank canvas in every moment. If we hold on too tight to ideas, we may find frustration, fear and even failure may enter our inner dialogue. This sets up for “comparisonitis”is” to take hold.

If we are able to approach life from a place of impermanence and curiosity without expectations, we begin to see and live the wonder and gift that life is.

Why not give yourself a pause from pushing. Instead, have an idea of what kind of things you would like to create in your life, relationships or career.  Set some positive intentions and choices, act on them and watch the beauty of a new chapter of your life unfold.

You are empowered to choose to live freely at every moment. It is only the mind that will drag the past or future expectation into the present-now gift.

Food for thought isn’t it?

Have a great week, 

Alli xx

Become your Own Best Friend…

Have you ever really thought about being your own best friend?

I believe that spending time with yourSelf is an incredible part of truly getting to know yourself and what is important in your life. 

Like any relationship, if you do not hang out with yourself how will you get to know who you are?

The trick is, do you "spend time with yourSelf" or are you just physically alone but your mind has you everywhere else?

Interesting thought isn't it? 

Really spending quality time with yourSelf helps to ground you in your life, it enables you to know where you are uncomfortable, where you are with peace, where you would like to heal or let go of the past and where you would love to nurture and grow.

At first you might find yourself unable to even be still, that you will keep thinking of things to go and do or people to reach out too. This happens because you have forgotten what it is like to simply “hang out with yourSelf!”

Spending time each day in the quiet stillness, aware of breath and feeling grounded in the moment, is such an important self-care health promoter.  It is as necessary as brushing your teeth and showering.

How do you know if you are REALLY spending time with you?  Here it is in three easy steps…

1. Ensure you are physically alone. 😉

2. Notice where your mind is. If it is anywhere other than where you are physically then you are not spending time with yourself. Your mind is stealing the time away from you and your nervous system is burning fuel. It doesn't need to think about past or future events of conversations, it needs to hang out with you right there in that moment that is meant to be nourishing and recharging you!

3. The mind is an instrument, it simply needs guidance and “tuning” to help to create a new habit. Begin to slow this overthinking, life-stealing mind away by befriending it with giving it something to focus on…you guessed it—your breath.  Start with the simple sentence “I am breathing in….I am breathing out”….notice your surroundings, where are you sitting or laying, walking or whatever other activity you are doing.  It won’t take long, but it will take practice.

Trust me, this simple habit of “spending time with you” is an absolute game changer. 

You might even like to listen to my Inner Light Podcast, which is free, to help your mind to slow a little - Episode 3 Series 3 - “Why should we practice Mindfulness and Meditation.” Will be a great help.

If you have a mind that is blissfully quiet, easy to stop thinking, easy to fall asleep and you are full of joy, energy and enthusiasm for life, that is fantastic and you probably do not need any of the above. But if you find your mind is a little full, it is hard to concentrate, your energy is low and you feel a little numb in your everyday life, either fall into bed exhausted or struggle to fall asleep and wake up exhausted, then why not give it a try.

I’d love to know how you go. Always feel free to email me and let me know if it helped. If you want to chat about it, book a Clarity Session call so I can help you further.  You will be able to book on the Contact page…

Have an amazing week, enjoy life!

Alli

Your Actions = Your Outcomes

How has the week been going for you? Wednesday is here already!

The sentence in the subject line "YOUR ACTIONS = YOUR OUTCOMES" can sometimes make us feel a little uncomfortable.

Why? Because it is an absolute "truth bomb".

If you think about it, every single action you choose to take results in the outcome you will experience. Everything from thought patterns, self belief, trust, courage, diet, lifestyle and even habits.

We can say or think we want to do or change many different things, but unless our choices align with our desired outcomes, we will come up short and feel we can’t create the change we want. We become frustrated and even may give up.

But what if the reason you can not create or make the choice that is best for you is because you do not know how to get out of the loop that you are stuck in?

A little like trying to find your way out of the maze and you just keep hitting dead ends. Has that ever happened to you? The solution is simple, in my work I help people to stop focusing on the "walls", aka situations, in their lives and start focusing on "their feet"—thought pattern choices which way to move them, which steps to take, left, right, etc.

It is amazing when you shift your thoughts from the walls that are stopping you and instead begin breaking through and start changing tact how easy it becomes.

I encourage you to feel what it is you wish to create or change in your life. Then ask yourself, "Am I focusing on what I wish to create and making choices that align with the change? Or am I focusing on "all the things" that I think are stopping me from creating it?"

This focus on the "things that are stopping" may very well be an old mindset self-sabotage in disguise which is holding you captive in the loop and stopping you from creating the change you want.
Have an inspirational week.

Alli

It’s Ok to Love Your Life…

Hope your week has been gentle.

This week in a time where many people are hurting, I ask the question: "Do you sometimes feel guilty because your life is going ok?"

Now don’t get me wrong I know not every day can be a huge success. I too have the challenges life brings, but I hear so many women telling me they hide their successes because their girlfriend’s business isn’t doing as well, or that they don’t talk about how great their relationship is or that they love their life because friends or colleagues are struggling in theirs.

Why is there this feeling that we have to hide loving our life? Why do we feel we can’t be honest with each other?

I think it comes from that good-old, unwelcomed acquaintance “comparisonitis”. When will this guy get the hint that it is no longer welcome within our inner dialogue?

We are all aware life has ups and not-so ups; that is the nature of life. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t grow, learn, heal and thrive. We wouldn’t find resilience, compassion, trust and empathy. One of the greatest gifts we give ourselves is to live grounded in each moment. That each moment we have a new opportunity to think and to act. In that new moment we are able to empower and create.

So how can we cultivate owning and celebrating our successes and “non-successes”? (I don’t use the word failure. To me you never fail at anything. You simply hit a dead end and know you need a different tact.) I believe the answer to this is simple. Begin to acknowledge, be grateful and be prepared to celebrate our successes. Not selfishly, rub-it-in-your-face type of way, but in a way that inspires others. This will then enable you to find more gratitude and resilience when things aren't so great. It helps us to see the forever changing nature of life.

There are many amazing men and women out there doing amazing things. Don’t they deserve to be cheered for? Aren’t you worthy of that too? Can’t we celebrate together guilt free? Be there honestly when things aren't so great?

In my line of work I often find women are holding themselves back without really noticing. They have a subconscious pattern of thinking that they are not worthy of success or wealth and so they do this or that in their life or career that gives them little wins but not the bigger ones they deserve. They will be the first to help someone else achieve or celebrate success but struggle to find the ability to do so for themselves. I will share and be transparent with you and say I had this too!

Have you ever felt like you didn’t give it your full potential because you were stuck in an old way of thinking? That you just couldn’t imagine what it would be like to actually succeed and own and celebrate the success? That this feeling has held you back from trusting your idea or possible creation? If we ground in each moment, we tap into the ability to create real change...

Let me know what you think?

Have a great week sharing all the magic you are.

Alli

Intuition Does Not Shout

This week I wanted to ask - Have there been times in your life where you’ve wished you had listened to your inner voice? Or perhaps you didn’t even realise your inner voice had spoken and in hindsight thought “Oh I wish I had known!”.

I often have people come to me that have never really listened to that inner knowing because they have never heard or learned to trust it.

I believe intuition (known by many names) is one of our greatest gifts to thrive, be nourished and to live a full and successful life. Remember in my world, “Success is Authentic Living.”

To be able to trust your intuition is one thing. But like any relationship, how do you trust if you don’t have a relationship with someone to begin with!

Your intuition doesn’t shout. It is a quiet, consistent presence, there under the surface that helps you to begin to own your uniqueness, to go with your gut. To know you can do things that aren’t necessarily what others are doing and it is ok.  

Why is it ok?  

Because in my world, no one gave us the manual to life. It is our life, our story and we can write it in any way we want. It is all about perspective, belief, consistency and most of all owning and living it.

So may I ask, have you heard that inner voice of intuition? If so, are you following it? 

Is it whispering to you and your mind is telling you “No way! I can’t do that, I am not worthy of that” or “I can’t achieve that!”? 

I can tell you now if you learn to be quiet and if you learn to listen you will gain a sense of direction, guidance and inner knowing that is so strong, you will never doubt yourself again.

It isn’t always easy. I get that first hand and that is why I love to do what I do and have been happily living and sharing it for over 20 years.

So why not, try noticing your breath, learn how to encourage a quieter mind. At first it might object, but if you just let it get used to it a little more mindfulness each day through breath and slowing down the thought speed you might just catch what your intuition is whispering to you.

If you find it hard to quieten the mind why not reach out to me.

Or even look at my FREE podcasts that are aimed at helping you find the ability to slow the busy overthinking mind.

Here is the link to the Inner Light Podcasts.

Resting in the nothingness opens us to hear the inner guidance.

You don’t have to be busy to mean you are successful or worth something. Joy comes from health and health and contentment comes from joy.  It is ok to slow down in life, and it doesn’t mean you are less productive, you actually find you gain so much more.

Wishing you a wonderful and inspiring week, 

🙏🏽Alli

“The Witness” - what does it mean?

How has your  week been flowing?

I am grateful for mine, why? Because once again many of you are reaching out and letting me know these newsletters are helping you identify and deal with different aspects of inner dialogue or self-criticism that you haven’t known even existed—and if you did, how to help remove and be free of them for good. It makes me feel incredibly grateful that I get to share this with you.  

Often people ask me how my journey into all of this began. There are many little stories I could share, but the one I think will help you the most this week is to talk about “The Witness.”  

It literally is a life/game changer and is an incredible part of Vedic Philosophy which is the basis of my work.

What if I asked you, “Have you ever noticed how busy your mind is?”

If your answer is “Yes”, then my next question is “Who is noticing?”

This is incredible when you think about it. “YOU” can witness how busy YOUR MIND IS.  This means that you are able to do something about it.  

Think about it… If you notice your sunglasses are dirty, you now know you need to clean them and you know how to do it.

So, if you are able to notice you have a busy, overthinking mind, shallow breathing, anxiety, fear about the future, fear about the past, uncertainty, lack of self-worth, an out-of-control over-busy calendar, you are now in the most empowering position possible.  

YOU can begin to implement changes, positive changes that can make a real difference in your life.  

I say to patients/clients all the time, once you are aware of it, you are 95% of the way there. The next part is applying the changes.

So notice in your everyday thoughts, actions, and life if you are able to witness the habits or dialogue you wish to change. 

Begin with your breath, it is always the easiest place to start, because you are already doing it. Simply sit with and notice how it feels as you breathe in, and how it feels as you breathe out…There are many more words I could write here, but I would prefer to give you less words and let you experience feeling what happens if you simply begin with breath and practice it regularly, you can build your practice from there.

If you are unsure of what or how to make these changes, that is what I am here for!  

Happy to help in any way I can reach out via my contact page.

Have a great week.

Alli

What Message are you Sending your Family?

How have you been going? With so much in the world changing I often think of the incredible Peace Activist Mahatma Ghandi’s quote “be the change you wish to see in the world.”

I truly believe the change begins with us…..

Have you found the “little chameleon self-sabotage dialogue” there in your thought patterns?  So since it seems to be such a hot topic with all the lovely women reaching out for clarity sessions, let's delve a little deeper. 

Another self-sabotage trait many don’t realise is the concept of putting yourself last. Can you relate?  

Now you have heard me talk about “applying your own mask first” many times and the inability to practice/live this is often closely linked with guilt and self-sabotage.

What I am asking this week is: What message does it give to your family, friends and if you have little people in your life, if you are always putting yourself last? What are you teaching them about themselves?

If you think about when someone you love puts everyone else’s needs before their own, what do you say? How do you reflect to them to ensure they look after their health? Take time for them? Don’t you think having integrity is important?  You know what I mean, to actually be living the advice or suggestions you give rather than them just being words.

As women (and men of course, sorry to the guys who subscribe) I believe it is important that we all begin to look after each other by ensuring we are looking after ourselves. The minute we take our own self-care into consideration we empower ourselves and liberate others that they too are worthy of looking after themselves. We give them permission that it is not selfish and yes, even if the “comparisonitis” is flowing around, wouldn’t that be a positive one for a change? 

If a friend or family member looked at you and thought “I really like how she/he prioritises time for themselves” how would that make you feel? I’d say it would be one positive case of “comparisonitis” if ever I have seen one!

Hope this little discussion has been helpful to you.  

Until next week, take care,

Alli

Time Poor - Is it an excuse not to begin?

Welcome to this week's Blog.

Firstly, I would like to acknowledge and encourage sending prayers of peace and support to those in need near and far around our beautiful planet. Never underestimate the power you hold within and the ripple your intentions of peace can create.

Speaking of your power within to create change, remember in my newsletter/Blog last week I was discussing self-sabotage? WOW, what a response in emails. Thank you to everyone who wrote in to say it really made them think about their own inner critic and the dialogue path it takes.

Funny isn’t it how we can use these common thoughts and sentences and they really can be a "wolf in sheep's clothing" to our ability to live a happy, nourished and fulfilled life. They can literally be stealing our life away and keeping us captive in the "One day I will do that."

I find that many women I work with have spent 10, 20, 30 even 40 years living with stress, anxiety or trauma based on lack or worth, lack of belief or fear/anxiety over past or possible scenarios and it has kept them from creating, living and loving life to the fullest.

They often think life is too busy to begin; that they’ll wait until the kids have grown, the job slows down, their diary is less full or their bank balance is higher. Or they do not feel it is possible to heal from their trauma or challenges they have faced in their lives. In the meantime they do not realise how much it is costing them to stay in the self-sabotage pattern of waiting until life gets easier/slower.

Now I am not here to make you feel guilty, honestly I am not. My newsletters/Blogs are here to perhaps pull the cover off some self-sabotage thoughts that are holding you back. To help begin the discussions on topics that are often left undiscussed leaving many suffering in silence within. Ones that you may not even realise are there!

I’d love you to pay attention and notice whether you’re "waiting until…." is actually an excuse from your mind you are using to not begin something or make a change in your life.

If you find yourself saying you’re time poor, or that there is no way you could possibly create changes until life slows down… this concept might be more relevant and influential in your life than you realised.

If you would like help on how to tackle this, feel free to reach out.

I hope your week ahead is an inspirational one.

Are You Guilty of Self-Sabotage?

I want to talk about self sabotage. Have you ever heard of it?

In my field of work most people haven’t, but once we start to discover what it is and how common it is in their life they are literally blown away by the empowerment that the awareness of it provides.

We often do not realise that self sabotage is in our subconscious. It is like a chameleon, it guises itself as little sentences or habits like these….

• “I will begin that when life slows down.”

• “She deserves that new job, but I could never be that successful.”

• “I have tried every diet known…none of them work for me!”

• “Free time. Oh that is a dream and not real in my life!”

• “There is no way I could change careers or study at my age!”

The list is endless of the internal dialogue women have that is fuelled by subconscious self sabotage.

It can come from many different places. In my way of working it doesn’t matter where or why it is the unwelcome guest in your inner dialogue.  

The most important thing? Recognise it is there and then kick it for good.

The first step is to recognise it in your internal dialogue. Scratch the surface and you will usually find “comparisonitis” is usually hanging in there too! Isn’t it time for both those unwanted habitual guests of your inner conversations to stop holding you back and leave?

A simple sentence like “No, I’m not thinking that way anymore!” can really begin to open the way to removing the habits.

Try it and see how you go?

Have an inspiring week.

Alli

Is this common act putting your good health at risk?

I would like to begin this blog by firstly saying thank you for all of the replies I received to last week’s newsletter about “comparisonitis”. It appears to have hit a real nerve, so I’m going to continue exploring this topic with you over the next few weeks, and in my upcoming Masterclass. (More on that below.)

But first, as we approach the end of February, I wanted to check in with you and see whether you’ve found your best-laid plans around your health or new ideas for the year have already taken a backseat to the other demands in your life?

If so, I encourage you to revisit the blog I shared late last year about the transformation that occurred for me when I shifted from goal setting to intention setting.

I often think how funny it is that, as women, we’re always there for other people in our lives but when time gets tight, it is usually our own needs that we throw from the diary first! It is our own personal appointments or down time that gets encroached on by our family, friends or clients.

I will be the first to admit there are times when that has to happen. But if that is something that is happening to you all the time, may I gently reflect that it is only a matter of time until you run out of oxygen in your own mask and your physical, emotional and mental health will suffer.

Remember, if we don’t apply our own mask consistently we are on borrowed time of good health. 

We can “hold our breath” to help others first sometimes but if it becomes—or has become—your normal, it is time to make 2022 the game changer. 

If you’re interested in learning how I implement practises in my daily life to ensure I “apply my own mask first”, I’d love you to join me for a FREE MasterClass next month! 

During this 1-Hour Live Class I’ll be chatting with you about:

• Strategies to put an end to that dreaded “comparisonitis”. 

• Changes to help prioritise YOU in your life. 

• How to keep your intentions on track in 2022. 

When you begin to put yourself first, it is NOT selfish. Not only will it transform your health, it will transform your life, your family and your career.

If this interests you, I would be honoured to have you join me you will find the Masterclass registration page or contact page here on the website.

It's FREE and even if you can’t make it LIVE by registering you will have access to see the recording.

I look forward to supporting you at the MASTERCLASS. 

Alli

Are you guilty of “comparisonitis”?

I hope your week is flowing for you?

This week I thought I would chat about whether you’ve ever noticed how much we compare ourselves?

We compare on so many levels…….looks, parenting, business, even being a woman or a man, and whether we have it all together or not! 

My question is always “Who is judging?”. 

Scratch the surface and you will usually find it is your inner critic and lack of Self Worth.

If we are aware we have these feelings of lack, surely that must mean we realise it is time to be free of them for good?

As soon as we compare ourselves we lose ourselves.  

Are we not unique?  No one has your life and you don’t  have anyone else’s. Sure, we all have hurdles, stresses, demands and maybe even health challenges, but really our life is our own unique signature. 

If there is one thing I love to share with the people I am honoured to work with it is to own your uniqueness and then empower yourself in that growth!

Honestly, look at parenting. How can you compare how you are parenting? Aren’t your children unique with their own personalities? Aren’t you trying to encourage that in them?

If we celebrate our uniqueness then we STOP comparing. We START supporting each other at bringing to the table our individuality. 

My challenge to you is this: Can you start to recognise how often you compare? Then pay attention to how useless that comparison can be and how much it undermines your self-worth. 

One of my favourite sayings to my patients is “Success is authentic living”, meaning please don’t gauge success on how full your calendar is or bank balance but on how nourished you feel by your career, relationships and daily life. 

Do you go to bed each night with a smile on your face feeling you lived your greatest day, even if you had challenges? 

How do you feel nourished? By being you, not trying to be someone else and certainly not comparing your successes against someone else’s.

So I say 2022—let the game of “Comparisonitis” be gone! 

Let me know what you think? Has this helped you to trust your uniqueness?  Email me let me know?  

I hope so.

Or if you would like to know more tips or tools, reach out and ask me.  Remember it all begins with noticing first, then you have a choice whether to keep the habit or shift it.

Take care and have the most brilliant and bright week ahead,

Alli

Moving from Self Criticism to Empowerment

How has your week been?

In writing this I was thinking about how often we forget that life is lived through learning—through the experiences we have. No one gave us the manual to a perfect life (well I haven’t met anyone with one yet!).

Our life is meant to have its ups and not-so ups, otherwise we would not experience growth, change and, better still, creation. But have you ever just wanted that inner critic that second guesses your every move to go and speak to someone else?

Let me ask you something…

In the last 30 days, how often have you said something critical about yourself in your own inner dialogue?

How does that make you feel?

Have you ever noticed how habitual it is to have self-criticism? 

The challenge is we don’t have anyone to call us out on it or stop it! 

It can happen when we’re sitting right beside our partner, a girlfriend or our kids. That negative dialogue is going on inside our head but no one else is aware of it. 

I often share with people how when they become aware of their self-criticism, they’re 90% of the way towards stopping it. 

It opens up a world of empowered growth or truly creating permanent positive change - but it helps if you have the tools.

Awareness comes from observing and from witnessing. It is a huge part of the Vedic way of sharing.  

Do you remember in one of my previous blogs I was discussing goals-v-intentions? How is that going for you? Is there any disappointment creeping in? Has your inner critic started telling you that you have failed, already? Did you set the goal or the intention?

Importantly, is the self-criticism there or are you making small but consistent steps? 

I know I am asking lots of questions but it is in asking yourself these questions you begin to realise how much your inner dialogue is undermining your worth. It also undermines your belief that change is possible. It can cause procrastination and worse—can lead to use becoming stagnant or giving up. 

Please don’t give up! You are worthy of making the changes to live a nourished, fulfilled and successful life.

It begins with knowing you have had enough, believing in you and more importantly backing that up with the positive inner dialogue.

Aren’t we all worth living our greatest Self?

Do You Follow Your Inner Compass to Calm?

I hope your week has been kind.  

I’ve noticed in the conversations I have been having with women during my 20-minute Clarity Sessions this week that people are starting to really feel that stir from within. The inner dialogue and stirring is starting to get louder and they are realising they can no longer ignore that it is time to create change and a more nourishing life.

In the tools I share I like to refer to this as the COMPASS TO CALM. We all understand that a compass tells us the direction we are going in. Most of us understand that we wish to live a more peaceful, calm, happy and nourished life. The difference is we don’t listen or focus on the inner compass; we focus on what other people think or what is right or wrong or how do I help other people feel comfortable, happy or pleased.  You being uncomfortable with a situation is your inner compass telling you something is not aligning.

When you start to listen to your Inner Compass, you find your true way home and discover your inner calm. Life doesn’t have to change to be better.  Your ability to cope and find solutions becomes a powerful advantage!

It will lead you to a place that enables you to weather any storm of life, and leave any storm from your past behind for good. It helps you to set yourself free of the struggle and find a place inside yourself that truly helps you find your calm and it becomes your “true North”—a sanctuary of strength and empowerment.

Alli.