Choose Your Frequency Wisely

Welcome, I hope this week’s Blog finds you well.

As you can see we have some new things happening with changes to the look of the the Website.

I am often reflecting on our ability to continually grow and so as I expand and grow so do the platforms on which I share.  I hope you enjoy the expanded work you will see over the coming months.  My intention is always to support you in your own empowered growth into transformational living.

I am always grateful to receive emails of thanks and support for the topics within the newsletters and blogs, reading these emails from around the world is an honour.  The amount received last week with my topic of True North was exceptional.  It seemed to hit a deep chord with many. 

​​True North is something which has guided me for much of my life, even if I wasn't fully aware of it at the time.  It has become such an integral part of who I am as a person and the direction I choose to grow, live and share from.

It is crucial we learn the importance of following our True North, the inner knowing of the direction that feels natural, calm and true. 

​​I often share within The Transformation Project that each of us emanates a frequency, like a radio station.  Our internal dialogue and belief systems add to that frequency.  It is our responsibility to ensure what we wish to bring to the world is what we have within our own "inner world."​
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We are in a time of immense change.  One where we are being asked to let go of old patterns of behaviour and reactions.  One where we are being asked to feel rather than think our way through situations.  It is in the feeling from our Heart that brings love to situations in our lives, not the dialogue and thoughts of past events.  How do we grow or enable others to grow if we keep bringing past events or patterns with us.  There must be a turning point of trust in the ability of healing and growth within the new moment for things to evolve.  This is a positive habit to cultivate, following your Heart rather than your mind or hurt from past.

As we experience shifts in consciousness many are watching relationships evolve.  At times this can be incredibly tricky and even painful.  If one chooses to bring the present moment of the here and now to the conversations it will quickly reflect love, empathy, compassion and healing.  Growth and evolution of the relationship and empowerment for all is the outcome.

It isn't always easy, but one thing is for certain: we are at the precipice of great change and living in a Golden Age.  It requires living presently, seeing and owning our behaviours, thought patterns and communication.  As you know I am one who will always reflect on the importance of clear communication with your own feelings and intentions before attempting to communicate with others.

Journalling, whether that is written, recorded or speaking out aloud to yourself are all great ways of gaining clarity.  It helps to feel through situations rather than thinking internally.  Often this will enable a deeper heart connection to situations and help guide you to see a clear kinder path for yourself and others.

Perhaps in the coming week, begin to notice your internal dialogue.  Begin to take proactive steps if it is caught in the past or future.  Self criticism will lead to more criticism within yourself and others.  Instead perhaps take a moment to bring awareness to ​your breath, Heart and the moment.  Feel the power of living in the present moment, it will literally transform the frequency that you bring to your world and support the change of frequency of our beloved Earth.

May you continue to inspire you.​​

Alli
xo

True North

I hope your week has been a good one, it's hard to believe we are at the end of March already!

Writing this Newsletter, I feel blessed to be sitting looking at the rising sun from Townsville, Queensland, Australia for a short family gathering.  As I am here watching the sun rise, it reminds me of a constant theme in my life for years, but especially in the last few months.  True North.

Townsville is 1,900 kms north of my home.  Travelling here yesterday I was thinking about the feeling True North has in our Heart.  Have you ever felt that feeling?

True North is the feeling of knowing something is right, that your body feels the call to action from deep within.  It is the flow of life, the inner knowing that this is the right direction.

My question this week.  Do we follow this each day or save it for the big decisions?  True North to me is intuition guiding us on the best possible path.  That can be applied for everything from major choices in our lives to the foods we eat, relationships and how we approach life.

I often discuss within the clinic and The Transformation Project, the importance of getting to know and live with this feeling.  It strengthens our own self-belief of listening to our best direction.  Not being swayed by comparisonitis or guilt.

My suggestions this week.  Sit quietly each morning, tap into a feeling within which is quiet, calm, and opening.  It might take a while to move past the busy mind.  That's ok, stay with the breath using the sentence within your mind "In" on the in-breath..."out" on the out-breath.  Don't push throughs away but rather let them move through the mind as you keep your focus on the sentence and the action of breathing.

You will find in a few moments there will be a shift in the volume or intensity of the thoughts. Get to know this quieter place, it is the one that will become your "True North."  A place of inner calm your natural state.  One that will guide you, support you and truly open your higher intuition and life from within.

It is when we know we are "in-flow" in our life. When things become simpler, and even if the times are challenging there seems to be an ease and grace come to moving through the challenges.

Following True North can be life changing.  But to move in the direction, one must first get to know the feeling.  The familiarity of knowing it is what will show you when something is NOT in your best interest and that is incredibly empowering in your life.

I hope you found this topic helpful.  I have often found that once people become aware of what True North feels like.  They never lose sight of the direction again, if they do, they know which direction to turn to feel the calm again.

May you have an inspirational week.


Alli
xo

Equinox

Whilst this Blog is seen in many countries, for us here in Australia I am writing this to you on the Autumn Equinox, for our Northern Hemisphere friends, Spring Equinox.  In many ancient cultures and for many others like myself, the Equinox is an incredible time of celebration.  

Wherein we are invited to align with nature.  Hold gratitude for what we have within the beauty of creation.  

Often life keeps us busy.  There seems to always be many things to do.  This can keep us from connecting with these natural rhythms which reflect growth and change in an organic harmonious way.  

This week I shall keep the newsletter shorter, with my less is more approach.

I invite you to walk outside, place your bare feet on the grass (or if it is snowing perhaps ensure those shoes are on!) 

Breathe, be still, listen, what do you hear?  

What can you feel?  

Stretch your arms out wide and feel alive.  Feel the incredible gift of being alive and of interacting and being one with nature.

Within these ancient rhythms of the earth, we align to the web of creation of which we are interconnected.  An interwoven tapestry of change and transformation is the Universes natural way.

May you enjoy a week that supports and connects you to your inner wisdom.  May you feel your inner change unfolding to expand you life in peace and love.

Alli
xo

The Little Things Hold the Greatest Impact

In response to the many emails of thanks I received for my e-book I thought I would share a discussion that happens many times during my chats with women around the world.

Often we think creating change is huge.  We create a sub-conscious block that change is all too big and keep putting it off for a better day, when we have more time.

That was the motivation behind my e-book, that many women I had spoken to over the years felt that way, that it was hard, costly and unachievable.  I wanted to share that creating positive change in your health doesn’t have to cost the earth, take hours out of your day or be hard.

The little things you do each day create the greatest impact.  This is a fundamental teaching of life, but do we live it?  How you speak each day to yourself, creates recurring patterns in your subconscious.  Is it positive self-talk or negative?  The food you eat each day, the caffeine, the sugar, it all adds up.  Yet we seem to either ignore these patterns or put changing them off to another day.  By making slight adjustments you begin a process which can be quite powerful to the body, mindset and motivation

This week I gently reflect, pick one thing you would like to improve for yourself.  Is it the negative self-talk, is it removing the sugar cravings? The 3pm energy low where you go straight for the coffee and chocolate can often be an indicator that there is depletion in the body.  Perhaps you would like to get more exercise but feel you don't have the time.

Whatever it is, pick one, do that consistently for 14 days before beginning your next one.  Please don't become disheartened if you don't always achieve the consistency.  Starting is the most important and empowered decision you will make.  Whether you succeed every day or not doesn't matter, it is better than never having started at all.  Positive self-talk is paramount, back yourself and your ability to create and live your greatest healthiest life.  

Like many of the women I speak with, you will be amazed at how one so-called little thing ends up being the catalyst for a huge positive impact you create on your health.  The world is changing, women are being asked to stand empowered and rise each other up.  That empowerment begins with your own health and how you treat yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

​If you missed my free e-book from last week's Blog and would like to see what it has to offer, here is the link click here -  Returning to You - A Woman's Guide to Empowering Health, to download, may it serve you well.

Have a beautiful week.

Alli
xo

Never Underestimate the Power of your Ripple

With today being International Women’s Day, I felt I wanted to reflect about the incredible woman you are (or man for our men readers).

So often we will be the first to give a compliment, share a kind word, tell a friend that they are amazing but rarely do we give the same nurturing support or love to ourSelves.

Aren’t you worthy of your own love, belief and nurturing?

The ripple you create in the world comes from how you live in the world, inside and out.  

Within clinic and Project I am often reflecting to women the importance of “positive self-talk.”  One of the questions I often say is “Think of someone you love."  Once the client has been identified someone important in their life, you can see the emotion and love they have for this person.  I follow with "Would you say negative things to them?”  There is usually a look of horror on their face with a quick response “No way!”

So my question is, your ripple begins with the love and support you give yourself.  Just imagine you walked around all day waist deep in water.  Imagine as you go through your day, doing what you do, speaking your words knowing that those words whether inside or out are leaving ripples.  

It makes you think doesn’t it?

Words are action, words create vibration, feelings, emotions within and around you. 

On this International Women’s Day, may you create the time to celebrate you.  All that you are, have been and will be in this life, your courage, your resilience, your love.

You create an incredible impact as a woman in society, whether you realise it or not.  The true depth of the impact of love you wish to see in the world begins from within you.

To celebrate International Women’s Day, as a gift from me I would like to share my free e-book if you would like the book, click this link “Returning to You - A Woman's Guide to Empowering Health" and you will be able to access and download.

It will give you some ideas and easy daily strategies that you will find helpful and supportive to your physical, mental and emotional health.

Happy International Women’s Day amazing woman, and may you celebrate the incredible Goddess that you are.

Shine bright.

Alli
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Have You Ever Felt “Out of Focus?”

Wow what a week, I hope yours is flowing with creativity and inspiration, mine certainly has been.  

In the last week I have spoken to so many incredible women of all ages and various locations who were in my words “feeling out of focus.”  They heard the call to action from last week’s Blog “Clear Communication - Bridge to Freedom” took affirmative action and are now thriving in the wonderful community of The Transformation Project.

Do you know what I mean by “out of focus?”  

We all understand when your camera is out of focus it looks blurry, doesn’t feel quite right and isn’t the image you want to capture.  This is what can happen to us in our lives as we lose ourSelves in the many roles we have.

I wonder if you can relate or have ever had those moments, perhaps laying in bed at night, sitting by yourself, walking or even driving to work. Where your body is present but your mind is wandering, questioning your life’s direction, your achievements or ability to make your dreams become your reality?  

Perhaps somedays you are in focus feeling your greatest Self in life.  Other days "out of focus" trying to “keep-up” appearances, hiding the “hot messes” vulnerability or overwhelmed feelings you have, for fear of who might judge you?

Or perhaps the "out of focus" feeling comes from knowing you want to create changes but think everyone will think you are crazy or come up with 1,000’s of reasons as to why you shouldn’t. 

On the momentum of last week’s message, this is the exact thing that many women feel but cannot quite put a name to it.  

That is why I penned “out of focus” to describe what many feel in silence.  

The one thing that we have proven time and time again within the last three years of sharing The Transformation Project, is that it doesn’t fit a “box.”  That a woman of any age, from any demographic can literally transform her life from the inside out through its incredible community, mentoring support and new paradigm teachings.  It is a ground-breaking way of nurturing and helping women transcend anywhere, at any phase of their lives or in any situation they may be dealing with.

The dawning of a New Earth and the changes being experienced are known by many names.  For me, no names are required, there is a freedom in not having to name it.  It is simply a feeling, knowing we have shifted and now it is time to look straight into the shadows of our beliefs that no longer serve us, to truly stand in the heart of who we are and shake those “old little gremlins” off for good.  

In celebration of March 8 being International Women’s Day I decided today to extend the current intake until that date.  We truly are closing the intake for several months whilst we do some incredible work within Project.  

If you know it’s time, if you know you’d love to have clear communication with yourself, be in brilliant bright focus, transcending limiting beliefs and owning the power of living the life you were born to live unapologetically, then this week is the week to reach out and book a clarity call with me.

Next week our Blog will be focusing on the incredible impact you make as a woman at this great time of change.

May you shine bright and brilliant from within this week, taking proactive steps to live who you were born to be.

Alli
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Clear Communication - Bridge to Freedom

Welcome to this week’s blog., I trust your week is flowing well for you.

Thank you to those of you who emailed me to say they enjoyed last week’s reflection of the shift in creating and how it helped them to make some proactive choices.

This week I ask the question - “Have you ever felt disempowered, unheard or misunderstood when trying to convey your feelings about a situation?”

I feel most of us can relate to this in our lives, likely more than once.  I often help people to discover how clear communication with yourself is the most important place to start.  In a society where we are so overstimulated and told to live fast, we often speak before we truly understand what it is we are wanting to express.

Often we place our focus on the external situation, the other person or the event and try to convey our feelings about this.  At times this can be tricky as we navigate feelings, emotions, beliefs and just the actual process of getting the words out when we haven’t really had time to feel it through ourSelves.

Having clear communication within yourself, truly reflecting, honouring and owning your feelings, before you even open your mouth, is the bridge from your inner universe to your outer universe.  If you are wondering what I mean by this, perhaps think along these lines.

Once you know and have clear Communication within yourself, you are empowered to have a clear direction to articulate and express what you desire to communicate with another. By knowing you, it becomes crystal clear what direction you choose to grow in, what are your beliefs, dreams, intentions and what aren’t.  Through the clarity comes the gift of creating the internal dreams into your external reality.

I often share within The Transformation Project, the importance of sitting with yourself each day.  Ask yourself the big questions, the ones your mind keeps avoiding by keeping you busy with “more important things.”  What could be more important than your own physical, emotional health?  Taking the time to get to know what it is like to dive deep into the feelings.  Get familiar with any discomfort, understand why it might feel uncomfortable and quite quickly you will find often it is because you may be going against your natural state.  You are not hearing your intuition, you may even be avoiding situations, emotions and speaking your truth and that is causing internal confusion, conflict and even fear. 

​​We are in a time of change, a time where to begin the process of internal listening, with pen and paper in hand to see what unfolds for you, could be the best decision in your life.  So simple, yet so empowering if the process is actually put into place.

If you find this idea sitting and looking into the shadows of emotional discomfort down right scary, then perhaps chat with me.  This week see’s the beginning of the wind down from my free connect-chats whilst I engage in some deep developmental work.  Why not take up a chance to start to open up some ideas within yourself, I guarantee you will be amazed at who and what wonders you find in there.  

If you think about it, your voice is vibrational - once you are empowered with clear communication from the heart, it is a very powerful way of living.  Often people will go over and over in their head what they want to say, but when the time comes they can’t get the words out.   There is a very big reason for this, if you want to know why and how to avoid it, reach out and let’s chat.

May you hear and act on your inner inspiration this week.

Alli
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Shifting Times

Many of the women I speak with are often amazed at how quickly they can shift the quality of their lives when they begin to move past the block of guilt around placing their self-care first.  Whether that be the block of spending time with themselves, finances or care.

One area consistently within the clinic is the subject of creating authentic success whether that be in career/business/relationships or all of the above.  How the process of creating and building your business/career from the external goals and results of old is an outdated paradigm in current times.  It can be false thinking keeping us captive in mind and restrictions of “comparisonitis” of how things have been done previously and I use that word “thinking” on purpose.  There have always been trailblazers, the ones that are brave to live something different.

We are in a time of great change, old beliefs, lifestyles, paradigms are no longer relevant in the waters of an expanding consciousness.  It is time to feel rather than think.  You are your business/career, you are what makes it unique, special, successful, magnetic.  If you want your business, career, family or life in general to improve, feel more real, authentic, successful, nourishing, or whichever other word you wish to use, then begin with the one common thing at its source - YOU.  The idea of your career or business came from within you.  You are the epicentre, the creatrix of it.  Have you ever noticed when you evolve, your business/career evolves?  When you live with more confidence, your business/career/relationships shift and flow more easily and successfully?

Now I can imagine, I am not sharing something new with you.  You probably know you are your business/career/relationships, my reflection, is that knowing being lived?  Remember the saying from a few weeks ago?  “Knowledge is knowing, Wisdom is Living.”  We truly are in a time to live wisdom through daily action.

It doesn’t matter how that shift begins, as long as it begins.  It truly will place you at the leading edge of a changing world.  My suggestion, perhaps take a few moments today to feel into your business/career/relationships. Write down what are the things that you are most passionate about and wish to create.  Then ask yourself, where did that inspiration come from?  My guess, within you, a feeling, a passion, a vision that then became a thought.  Now if you look at someone else in your industry, can they have the exact same feelings? No, even if they are similar, they can not be exactly the same.

We all have a “Unique Universal Signature,” as I like to call it.  It is a life game changer when you truly learn how to identify it, nurture it and live life thriving in it.  Your ability to magnetise and own your “creatrix” ability is all part of how I share with women to not only create and live their greatest Self, but to soar, celebrate and live unapologetically making an incredible positive difference in the world.

Trust begins within yourself. If you find creating the changes a challenge, if the past seems to keep influencing your present life, have a complimentary no pressure connect chat. You will find it on my contact page.

There are many old systems of belief and modes of living which no longer serve us, they may be habits, trauma, or blocks.  Just like a car of 1955 can not compete in performance with one from 2023.  Doesn’t your business, careers, relationships and ways of living a nurtured life, deserve to be up to date with a rising conscious society?  If you do, then remember that change begins within you.  Why not take that first step to create change?

I hope this conversation has inspired you to feel a little deeper within your own unique Self, to celebrate and have a “wonder-filled” week.

Alli

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Empowerment through Awareness

Have you ever wondered what my program the The Transformation Project. is all about?  Since 2019 it has supported, uplifted, empowered women internationally to transform their lives into absolute freedom.

In case you haven’t heard, “You” are the greatest project you'll ever encounter in this life.  Yes Mums, not your kids, not your partner or even the grandkids.  It is you and it’s important to understand boundaries and have good communication between heart and mindset before being able to clearly communicate with others.  This is one of the pillars of Project, letting go the concepts and learned ancestral behaviour patterns and beliefs to discover the jewel that lies within and then share that gorgeous ripple of yours.

I recently made the decision to close the intake to Project on 24th February for several reasons.  We are about to embark on some exciting new paradigm transition teachings within the program and some exciting deep creative work for myself which requires my dedication.  Therefore, the hours I share each week to my Transformation Project - connect-chats will be reallocated to these two important areas.

If you have ever wondered about the program, had thoughts like, “It sounds wonderful”  Or maybe, “Yes I’d love that, but the timing just isn’t right.”  May I ask, when is the time right?  Does life ever really slow down?  Why do we keep waiting and keep putting our own needs last? (Hello BOOM old belief system alert!) Remember my teaching “apply your own mask first,” it is why so many are exhausted, giving until they are spent wondering why overwhelm, illness and exhaustion are becoming the new norm.

The next 2 weeks are paramount to reach out. Please understand this is not a sales pitch, those of you who know me, know I do not work that way.  This is simply giving transparency to the changes and saying if you never ask, you will never know whether it is the right fit for you to make 2023 your year of Transformation.

Our world is changing, old modes of thinking, living and beliefs are outdated.  The women who are in the program are its greatest advocates, just look at my website to read what they have to say.  I am honoured to walk beside them everyday.  They have seen how having 24/7 support at your fingertips to help you on those wobble moments is gold.  That the ability to have weekly chats, ask as many questions or receive extra ideas for navigating the “real world scenarios” is priceless.  It is why the community was created, to enable you to have the support of a program that works, surrounded by like minded women who care and get you.  That you don’t have to hide your fears, past or differences.  

​​Within the group you are celebrated, valued and supported for your unique story and you are given empowering tools to let go of what is not you, to step into and shine who you were born to be.

So, if you would like to know more, if you feel that perhaps there is just something inside of you asking for change, now is the time to reach out and have that Connect-Chat.  It won’t cost you anything more than your time.  If you never chat, you will never know if it is the answer you have been waiting for.
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​​May you inspire yourself this week.

Alli
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Watermarks

Can you believe we are already into February?  Thank you to everyone for your support of last week’s honesty and my recovery, all is going well.  

This week I thought I would share a topic I often work within my clinic and program, The Transformation Project.  Years ago I had a career within the legal profession and we often used  things called “watermarks.”  Have you heard of them?  It is either a faint word (often "draft") or logo placed across a document to protect or define it from the final document.

Well for me, that career was a lifetime ago.  Years later, whilst creating the program and counselling in clinic, I began to use this analogy to help people recognise why, when they were feeling light and positive in their movement forward in healing.  All of a sudden they would experience little triggers causing their nervous system to heighten and responses revisited to the past challenges or traumas in their lives.  These were the "watermarks."

Once you realise it is like a faint watermark in the nervous system you are empowered to begin to work with tools and strategies I have developed.  You are free to truly be free of the hold your past may have over how you are living your life now.  We have helped many women with everything from PTSD, anxiety, trauma, insomnia, claustrophobia, fear of public speaking and so much more.

So if you know or suspect you may have some “watermarks” from the past that keep negatively influencing your life now, why not reach out and have a chat to hear a few of the tips to begin to help them fade for good.

We are all aware that the past, is the past, that the future will unfold and what you do now is the most important moment you have to work with.  Often easier said than done.  That is where I am inspired and honoured to support.  By being free to truly live in the present moment, without the watermarks and old patterns in your nervous system and neural pathway responses, you are unstoppable at creating and living the life you were born to live.

May you inspire yourself this week and choose to do something just for you.  Something to support your healing and growth.  If I am able to help, you know you only need to reach out via contact page.

Alli
xo

You Write ” Mess” Before “Message”

Welcome to this week’s offering.

You may have noticed I have been a little quiet of late.  That is because I am practising my number one rule I share with anyone in my life or that I work with - apply your own Self-care mask first!  So I haven’t emailed you, not because I don’t care, but because I do care and don’t just send an email for the sake of it.  Each writing is from my heart, in the hope that it will support, nurture and help you in your own navigation of this beautiful (though at times tricky) thing called life.

I am grateful to say that I received many emails thanking me for the gentle yet truthful reflections relating to my newsletter with the topic of guilt from a few weeks ago.  Especially from Grandmother's.  It is funny how guilt shows up in the most incredible places.  

My newsletters are here to open discussions within yourself and your life, ones that will open honest dialogue to create a more harmonious way of daily living.

My topic for this week’s newsletter wasn’t my planned one.  I felt compelled today to write something which is reflective and where my life is personally sitting right now (funny choice of words there which will make more sense in a moment).  Not to create panic or concern but in the hope that it will help you to see paths out of any of your own challenges you may face.

In my life there have been many challenges whether health, emotional, loss, heartache, like many we all have our stories.  For me, the last two years have seen a deep dive into the dark night of the soul to find another level of resilience, strength and empowerment.  After 2 years of dealing with a TBI from a fall in February 2021, December 2022 saw me the strongest, clearest and ready to tackle 2023 with gusto and purpose.  Well that is what I thought.

Jump forward to January 2023 as I write this newsletter to you laying on my back, literally 80% of what I had planned for January/February 2023 will not be happening.  I found myself literally put down hard on my backside after yet another unexpected fall.  I now find myself with a physical injury which will see me literally paused, still to recover. Universe fault? No, no way.  I believe we all have a purpose, in sanskrit we call it Dharma, our unique signature/gifts we bring to this existence.  We can take many detours in life which may take us on the scenic route, still in the direction to our Dharma, but a far longer ride.  I think it’s time I took the direct route, that is what I believe this fall has been all about.  Not to procrastinate any longer on my inner dreams. 

I am a great believer that the way we live our daily life is our dharma, that in every situation we find direction after the initial dust has settled.  In this one, I have found probably the clearest direction I have ever felt.  In the original mess of the fall I now hear and find the clear message.  Simplicity on yet another deeper, more authentic level.

Can you relate?  

When you look at your life, have you found that in the deepest challenges come the greatest transformational empowerments?  I share this with you today in the hope it may help you to reflect on just how incredible you are.  That you have the resilience, that you have the ability and that you have great purpose.  Pause for a moment, think, feel, celebrate what you have grown through in your life.  Sometimes we forget to pause and remember just how far we have come.

I look forward to where 2023 will flow and go for us all.  I have a saying that “when we are in the flow, we glow.”  That’s what the world needs, more glow, more light, more Divine beings choosing to live the life they were born to live, from their hearts.

May you let your heart inspire your life.

Until next week, Shine Bright,

Alli
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Guilt Can Keep You Frozen

Wow, thank you to everyone who reached out and connected.  The emails were coming in thick and fast.  It is such an honour to hear the stories of  many who know they want change, but just weren’t quite sure how to make it happen.

Welcome also to all the lovely women who are now in The Transformation Project, truly you will not believe what is possible for you when you learn to prioritise yourSelf and are supported with the right support and tools on board.

So this week I thought I would hit a topic which when my family was younger and school holidays were around was especially a big one.  

Guilt, good old Mum guilt.  I would always feel bad if I gave time to myself, said no to the kids when I was exhausted and they just wanted one more swim, friends to sleep over or trip to the park.  

But guess what I learnt to move through it by trusting that I was helping my kids to honour their needs of down time too.  Now with four adult children, I can see that it worked really well for them.  They all have good boundaries and understand who they are in the world.  So Mums I say to you - white space, flamingo time, sacred time, or chill-cheer, is not something to be guilty about.  It is a must!

Now as a Grandmother I say to all the Grandmothers out there, yes, that guilt tries to return when it's the Grandkids asking.  Stick true, teach the young ones the chill-cheer feeling and bam everyone is happy.  Often the constant “yes” teaches people pleasing, over-stimulation and even can nurture the good old “comparisonitis” of trying to keep up with everyone else.

If you find it difficult to set boundaries that help you to keep true to you, remember, always happy to help.  Let’s have a Connect Chat and give you some free tools on how to begin setting the boundaries that will set you free.

Have a great week.  Remember, if you would like to say no to something, but find it difficult.  Here’s my little tip, begin with, “Thank you, but no……..” (fill in the dots where you need too.) You will be amazed how easy it becomes when the first two words that come out of your mouth are “thank you,” it seems to soften the “no” and help remove the guilt.  

Hope this week’s little offering was helpful.

Until next week, shine bright.

Alli
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Shedding What Isn’t Ours

Welcome, to this week’s offering and happy 2023!

May this year be all and more than you hope for.  

I thought this week, why not chat about what is usually the “hottest topic“ at this time of year.  

How to let go of what we don’t want in the new year, to nurture more of what we do.

We all know what it is like to finish a year, reflect over the closing one, the wins and the challenges. Looking to the new one, with fresh enthusiasm and ideas of creating a brighter, lighter, more nourished year than the one before.

Even if 2022 has been a good one, (which I hope it was for you), we often still strive for more, that “something better” in the next one.

But what if we have it all the wrong way around?

What if in fact the kindest, most authentic gift we could give ourSelves and the world in 2023 would be to lighten the load.  Let go of who we aren’t to uncover the jewel of what lies within each of us.

What if we took the things we perhaps wished we had done better to motivate us to not only uncover the more authentic parts of ourselves but also to nurture and live them each and every day.

So let’s ask a question.  

How many self help books, motivational speakers or quick fix things have you tried in your life?  

Now this isn’t an integration, in fact I am going to be so transparent in the hope it helps you more.  For me it was books on empowerment, healing, philosophy, whatever I could get to help discover the “x-factor” I was craving to connect too.  So much so that not only did I read, but I studied and trained in various modalities.  Nothing seemed to stick so I trialled and begun what I affectionately call my "research years"  on me and within my life.  I became kinder to myself and from that BOOM.  

I began to connect and create from inner inspiration and I learnt it was ok to trust my inner wisdom and what I was capable of creating.  Even in the big and little challenges of life, I seemed to found a way to adopt an easier flow through them.

There is a saying you may have heard me quote before - “knowledge is knowing, wisdom is living.”

This is my “North,” am I living what I truly believe?

If I find myself struggling, feeling overwhelmed or uncertain, I know my mind has taken over again.  The good old "comparisonitis" has hit under cover of the night and rattled my self-worth cage again.  But through applying the tools I developed, I quickly find the space again to return to living, loving and trusting my true nature and creativity.  That I am unique, I am meant to do things differently and that it is ok to not always win.

If reading the latest offering from your favourite motivational author’s self-help book made you feel good, it seemed to help a little, but then life got busy.  The tools soon fell away and didn’t really create the permanent change you crave.  

If you’ve tried to lose the physical weight but it doesn’t seem to budge because the heavy or toxic emotions are still at the core of the issue.  

If the trauma of the past is a ghost that keeps negatively influencing your days and plans for the future and you’ve had enough.

Then why not have a connect-chat with me and make 2023 your year to return to you - through working on the greatest project in your life, - You.

Life has become so fast paced and like a rubber band, many have been stretched to their limits across their life.

It is time to return to our truest nature, to return to our origins of inner wisdom.  I love what I do, I am honoured to help women everyday through The Transformation Project, so much so that for January/February 2023, we have a promotion that helps you enter into the program with a huge extra benefits.

If you would like to have a Connect Chat  to gain some simple tools on how to best move into 2023 without the old patterns returning, it would be an honour to connect and hear your story.

Today can be the day to put into action all the ideas that you would like to live.

I'd like to share something that helped me keep motivated whilst studying Ayurveda, it was on the wall of the college where I trained.

"In 12 months time you will have wished you’d started today."

I am here to say, it is easier than you think, let's connect.

Have an inspiring week, trusting yourSelf and listening to your inner wisdom.

Alli
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Gratitude & Intentions

Welcome, Oops guess who forgot to hit publish on my blog of 23rd December? Yep, me. Wasn’t the first time and I bet it won’t be the last. Anyway, here is what was written the week leading up to Christmas 2022….

As we watch the days fly past in the lead up to Christmas, I take this opportunity to thank you for your continued support and belief in the work I share.

My intention is always to reflect simple tools and topics, one that perhaps begins the inner discussions of creating positive change and nurtured daily living.

Often it is at this time of the year we reflect on the processes of the life we have lived in the ending year and focus on the things we would like to create in the year to come.

My suggestion this week and over the holiday period, is to perhaps look a little deeper inside yourself for 2023.

Here are a few tips to begin that positive discussion -

• Find yourself a moment of quiet to sit with a pen and paper in a calm environment.

• Write down the things in 2022 that nurtured you and supported your growth.

• Reflect and write how you can continue to nurture them in your life.

• Write down the things in 2022 that may have exhausted/caused stress to you.

• Reflect and write about perhaps different ways of interacting with these things which may help create a more nurtured daily life.

Then ask yourself this question

What do I wish to nurture in myself and my life in 2023?

Write the top 3-6 things that come to you.  

Often we may look at the outcomes or goals we want but rather I suggest going deeper to the core intention and the steps that can be taken by you each day to work towards creating this in your life.

Please always remember, if you find creating change difficult or challenging.  If you feel it is too much to do because of the many things you have going on in your life.  I am here to lend that supportive space. Clarity-Calls for 2023 are here for you to be able to have that space held why you think, and create a framework of change.

In closing, may the holiday season gift you precious time spent with those you love and may the New Year of 2023 bring all that you dream of and more to enable your light to shine.

Chat to you in January.

Alli
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A Quiet Moment

Welcome to this week’s offering and I hope life is flowing for you.

As I was reflecting on what to write this week, it was very clear to me that everyone is busy in the lead up to Christmas.  I felt this is a week, I would like to create space for you rather than more.

This week’s newsletter will be short, to create a some space for you to have a quiet moment. Often there is so much being said in the world, today I believe less is more.  

My suggestion - as you read this sentence, can you gift yourself a moment of pausing right now?  Literally as you read this, notice how you are feeling, breathe in, pause to notice this actual moment and as you breathe out, let go of some of the tightness and stress from your jaw and shoulders. 
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When we do not take the time to create space or even to notice small snippets of breath and space in our day, we tend to pile the stresses of the morning in our body and carry them into the afternoon and even the next day.  Pausing and creating space throughout the day enables us to let go of them.  It doesn't need to be long.  Something so simple I know, but I ask, how often do you practice it?  Thus this gentle reminder.

May you have a beautiful week, honouring your needs and even though life is busy with perhaps many things to do, please do not to lose the little gifts in your day.  All you need to do is notice them.

​​If you find it hard to calm the mind, speak with me for tips and strategies via a connect chat. You will find the request on the contact page.

May your week ahead be inspired by your quiet moments.

Alli
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Living Your Health

Welcome, to this week’s offering.

Thank you to everyone who wrote in to let me know how the latest release of Inner Light Podcast episode “School Zone for the Mind,” helped them to relate to why mindful living is so important. That is the essence of the Podcast, to help expand the inner calm to be experienced on the surface of daily living to create an extraordinary life. If you haven't listened to the podcast episode go to the Podcast link page at the top of this page of the website.

As the pace of December and end of year continues to move through I felt this week, I would chat to you about "Living Your Health." This is something that comes up quite often in discussions in the clinic and in The Transformation Project.

​​We all understand how important health is, we all wish to have it, but often it sits on the back burner with so many other things given more importance.
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Those of you who have been receiving my newsletter for a while have heard me quote the old saying "Humans spend their health creating their wealth and then spend the wealth trying to reclaim their health."

This is such a powerful sentence, unfortunately for many it is the truth.

As the end of the year approaches this is the ideal time to begin reflection, what will 2023 look like for you? Where in your calendar do you set time aside for you, for your nurturing, health and acts of kindness for you. Many keep waiting for the holiday to rest, what happens to our nervous system and digestion in the meantime?

Ayurveda teaches every day routines are paramount not only for good health but for a truly joyful existence. My suggestion, ask yourself what are the top 6 important things for you in 2023 look at the calendar begin to make changes and pencil out the "Recharge Time" as an appointment just like you would for the other obligations in your life.

​​For those of you who haven't heard of this teaching of mine, it is where you actually go through your calendar and schedule time with yourSelf, whether daily, weekly, fortnightly, monthly. You will be amazed at all the things the mind will tell you why you can't and the things it will put in front of it as more important. Honestly, is there anything in life more important than your health and your joy? Please don't wait until it has gone before you try to bring it back, why not start making the adjustments now to empower you on all levels.

Living Your Health begins with the little things you do everyday to recharge yourself, just like a battery if it is running on overdrive all the time it can not continue, you too need to replenish your energy supply, some suggestions to begin with -

*Pause through the day to connect with where you are physically and have three mindful breaths.
*Ensure to calm before eating, with no multi-tasking.
*Take yourself for time in nature, away from devices.
*Ensure to spend time mentally, physically and emotionally with those you love. What I mean by this sentence is that many will physically be with their family but their mind has them everywhere else. Pause and reflect, truly nourish yourself with those you love, they will notice the difference.​​​​​​​

These may seem like simple, obvious things to do. My question - do you do them everyday? Please don't wait until the end of 2023 to want to create the change you have been longing for. What you think you may not be able to afford in time or money, may I gently reflect, perhaps you can not afford not to create the change.
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​If you find it difficult to know how to do these suggestions without feeling guilty, or your busy mind will not allow the down time, then please feel free to have a Connect Chat with me to find out some simple but powerful tools to begin the process of daily Living Your Health, physically, mentally and emotionally.​​​​​​
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May your week be inspirational and filled with living and having gratitude for the special moments of your day.

Alli
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School Zone for Your Mind

Welcome to this week’s offering, I hope this newsletter finds you well and I can imagine perhaps a little busy as the month of December is here.

I thought that to coincide with the release of the next Inner Light Podcast episode “School Zone for the Mind,” I would chat to you about the subject here.

As I have mentioned to you previously, mindfulness literally means having a “MIND FULL of NOW.”  So you can see that living with it can help nourish our enjoyment of life, being more present within it and at a slower pace.  

But why is it important for our health?

I like to use the 40kms School Zone as an analogy.  

We all understand why we drive at 40kms around school zones for safety, to allow us to pull up quickly if needed.  I see mindfulness like the School Zone for the mind.  If we live at a slower pace in our everyday life and thoughts, it becomes easier to slow down when we wish to stop to sleep, meditate or simply relax.  

Have you ever wanted to relax but your mind and body have you constantly jumping up to do the things you keep thinking of?  That is a classic example of a mind and nervous system running too fast and so it is hard for you to “pull up and stop.”  This fast pace can have a detrimental result on the body and potentially cause “burn-out.”

If we run our lives multi-tasking, constantly on the run and busy, we are running at a highway speed of 100kms.  Imagine having to pull up quickly on the highway travelling at that speed?  It is hard, nearly impossible to do it quickly and safely.  Often people think that a fast pace is required to create efficiency when in my work, people often become more efficient the more mindful they become. More decisive and completing tasks in full rather than half doing things and moving onto the next. 

So perhaps next time you drive past a school zone, think twice and ask yourself, am I living my life in the nourishment of mindfulness or am I stuck in the fast lane?

If you find it hard to slow the thoughts and busyness down, please reach out for some easy but effective tools or subscribe to the Inner Light Podcast to hear the latest episode School Zone for the Mind being released this coming Saturday.

Have an inspirational week finding the special moments each day.

Alli

Apply Your Own Mask First

I was reflecting on some old blogs recently and thought with the busy season fast approaching it might be a good time to revisit this topic.

I know we are all well and truly over the “mask thing,” but the teaching of “apply your own mask first” was around long before our recent global pandemic and can have powerful positive results in our life.

If you have been on an aeroplane you have been through the safety drills. They tell us loud and clear that should there be an emergency, the masks will drop from above and they state “Please apply your own mask first before helping others."

As a Woman with many different roles, I can share with you that somewhere along the line we lost this practice. We were told it is selfish to look after you first. I am here to say a big loud NO, it’s not! Because just like in the plane, if you are okay you can support and be there for others.

If you are gasping for air, drowning under the weight of responsibilities and demands, how can you be there for your family? For your career? But most importantly how can you be there for you and your health?

Don’t you deserve to enjoy your life? This isn’t a practice run.

Each day our life gives us so many opportunities. It doesn’t just save all the good things for holidays.

Life is every day. This is it. So let’s help you make the most of it.

Just like the plane, the mindful breath will always be the greatest, cheapest, easiest way to apply self care to yourself first. Breath is life and something as simple as bringing it into your everyday awareness can have major positive changes in your physiology and psychology. It is easy, doesn't cost anything, is always with you, all you need to do is notice and apply.

Noticing your breath throughout the day is an opportunity to gain a "little oxygen" and release steam out of your "pressure cooker of tension/emotions" so you don't explode at the end of the day!

Here is the simple place to start to help the mind and breath-
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Breathe in - Saying in your mind “I am breathing in”….

Breathe out - Saying in your mind “I am breathing out”...

Now as you do this, imagine all the tension (aka steam) that has been building up in your mind, emotions and physical body melting away.

Honestly, have you ever been in a check out line (especially at the moment with Christmas fast approaching!) and you are feeling stressed because it isn’t moving quick enough? Why not do this instead? You are there anyway? Wishing the line to move quicker won’t make it move quicker. So why not practice this and you will be the one that by the time you get to the cashier you will smile and ask her/him how their day is. Isn’t that so much nicer than the tension and steam you used to build?

It helps you apply your mask first in all kinds of situations.

Stuck in traffic instead of being frustrated, breathe and let the tension go.

Running late to a meeting or getting the kids to school. Breathe, that way when you arrive you won’t burst through the door a hot mess or send the kids out of the car with a “Quick, hurry up get out!”. Instead, you (and the kids) will arrive cool, calm and ready to do whatever it is you are there for.

Can’t get to sleep, well you know getting frustrated won’t help you get to sleep, instead, try the breath and melt the tension and thoughts into the bed and into the floor. Or get up go outside in the cool night air look at the stars, breathe and calm. Then go back to bed.

There are a thousand different strategies and scenarios I could share with you. If you would like some help with a personal scenario and how to let the steam off reach out via the contact page.

Have an amazing week being you, on moment at a time.

Alli

K.I.S. The Natural Way to Live

I trust your week is flowing. This week following on from hosting the Sacred Space Retreat, in which we embraced nurture, joy, nourishment, nature and release. I thought I would chat about the saying Keep-It-Simple (we certainly won’t be using the last S and word!).

We all know the term, we may even use it, but how often do we live it?

The Vedic way of living is a natural simplistic approach, yet many see it as complex. Rise with the sun, rest with the moon, move to the rhythm that feels right to you. Know your breath and tune your mind to be mindful in the presence of what is in front of you (the present). If you think about it, nature seems to flow so effortlessly before us, flowers and trees grow with such grace, simplicity and in their divine timing. The ebb and flow of the tide and the moon cycle reflects a natural presence of rhythms.

This newsletter is reflecting the K.I.S. philosophy, by staying short. Perhaps in the coming week, notice are you living a life which is simple and aligned to you, or are you pushing and moving faster than you would like too?

We all have external pressures but you are at the center of your life, you are the one that is involved in all the different relationships, the employment, the roles. So if you think about it, you are the one and only one who has the empowerment to orchestrate the music of your life? What tempo will you choose?

If this seems too far-fetched to do, perhaps chat with me, via the contact page, you might be surprised how little tweaks can make incredible differences to how you view and interact with your life, situations may not change but how you view, interact and react with them most certainly will.

May your week flow to the rhythm of your heart.

Alli

Standing in Your Power

Welcome to this week’s offering.

Thank you to everyone who attended last night’s creating a Marvellous Menopause event. What a beautiful time of women coming together to celebrate life and the natural transitions. It was an honour to connect with many new faces and hearts and share with old familiar ones too. I am incredibly grateful to have shared time with you all.

The intention within last night and my newsletter is to discuss topics that perhaps begin the conversations of enquiry within yourself.

Over the last few months I have been building on the topics of outdated belief systems that no longer serve you, self-sabotage, fear and learning to be guided by trust and the inner wisdom. As previously mentioned one of the most empowered moments is the realisation there is a limiting belief system recreating patterns/situations holding us back.

It can be anything from negative self-talk, food choices, lack of exercise, lack of self-belief, guilt, poor relationship choices, the list is long, but one thing is for certain, the moment you recognise they are present and it is time to leave them behind you are in an empowered position. Once you know they exist you are 95% of the way there. The next step, consistency of creating a new way.

Do you remember my quick list from a previous newsletter to help break this old outdated belief system?

This week I will use the habit of negative Self talk as an example -

1. Know it exists

You catch yourself saying "Oh I’m hopeless, it’s my fault, that was stupid."

2. Know you want to change it.

You understand that saying this is not helping or motivating you. Ask yourself, would I say it to someone I love? I am sure the answer is no, so then don’t say it to you. This begins not only helping you, but in beginning this process you give someone else the role model of believing in themselves more. What a precious gift of truth that is.

3. Know and then choose what positive behaviour/mindset to replace it with.

If negative self-talk is Plan A then you need to have a Plan B ready. Replace "I’m hopeless with I’m learning." Keep it simple and keep it lighthearted.

4. Know that it will take consistent positive choices to change.

Be kind to yourself and if you catch yourself 100 times in one day that is amazing and should be celebrated, because you are aware you are having negative self-talk 100 times and you are taking positive steps to change it. That is powerful!

5. Know it is important to be kind to yourself as you learn and grow.

Accepting, forgiving and being kind to yourself is the key, catch any self- negativity, smile or laugh instead, something like "Oh there I go again, no - not any more." It empowers you and disempowers the overthinking, critical mind habits.

These are five simple yet powerful ways to begin to make positive change in your life. What better way to inspire yourSelf, family and friends. Does it work? YES, just ask the many amazing people who I have shared this with in clinic or my program who are now living their lives free from the negativity and are no longer their own harshest critics but their own biggest fanclubs.

Your choices, your creations on your canvas to create and live life.

You’ve got this, no negativity here, just one breath, one step at a time, remember there is no manual to life, just experiencing it.

We are in a time of great change, let the inner wisdom that is naturally within rise. It is waiting for the mind to step out of the way so it can be heard. It needs you to nudge the mind out of the way by letting go of the self-sabotage/critical talk.

Trusting your Inner Wisdom is the beginning for one of the most empowered life changing experiences a human can have, in trust and connection to the Inner Wisdom, there is the remembering of the Divinity and peace within.

If you are someone who finds it hard to break negative habits or mindset and you would like a little extra support, please connect with me via my contact page.

It will be an honour to connect and hear your story.

May you continue to be your greatest inspiration and motivation.

Alli