Are you connected to your rhythm?

Welcome to this week’s blog.

May is known as Mental Health Month, as we move into May I wonder how often you take time to assess and nurture your own mental health?  Often I find it is something people think they will do when life slows down.  Because it is not easily seen by others they often delay looking into it.  But how long do we wait, and what detrimental things are happening to your health whilst you are waiting?

I’d like to reflect on some simple yet powerful ways that might help you begin to nurture your health better.  

How is the change of seasons going for you?  For those of you here in the southern hemisphere we are well and truly into Autumn now with Winter fast approaching.  

Within the Vedic philosophies of which I am dual-trained, Autumn is a time of transition.  We begin to slow from the hectic fast pace of Summer/Christmas/NewYear and begin to gain momentum and settle in the routine of the kids back at school, the year at work and the flow of the middle of the calendar year.  Daylight savings ends and nature is beginning to reflect to us at a slower pace (well that is if we are noticing!).

As a Vedic Practitioner, one of the main things I see in the community and around the world is a fast paced, out-of-sync-with-nature lifestyle.  We have technology that keeps stimulating our brains until late at night, mobile phones which keep us constantly checking social media and creating an expected quick response to everything including our nervous systems.  This can greatly affect our ability to relax and gain a restful sleep.

Yet, nature, as she has done for literally thousands and thousands of years, reflects to us daily how to live an abundant, healthy life.  Understanding that impermanence, change, seasons, day and night, creation and evolution are all part of a natural existence.  Nature encourages when to be active when the sun is high in the day and when to slow when it is dark and it is night.

I reflect that once you become aware of something you are empowered to make a choice. 

If you feel you would like to slow your life down, look to nature, watch how the days are growing shorter and the leaves are starting to change.  A beautiful time of transitioning to a slower, more nourishing pace of winter.

Why not? Isn’t it your life, your choices to choose whether it is fast or slow?  

We often think we need to wait until a better time to create the change we long for; that a slower more nourishing paced life is for someone else to achieve or around the corner once we get a few more boxes ticked.  

Yet doesn’t change occur because you take a proactive step towards it?  Isn’t your mental, emotional and physical health important enough to place first?

I hope the week ahead nourishes you deeply because of the choices you choose to make.

Take care,

Alli

xx

Change is Natural. Can you embrace it?

I hope your week has been a good one.

A common topic in the last week for women reaching out for a clarity call is the question “How can I learn to be comfortable and positive when unexpected change keeps happening in my life?”

It is an interesting question isn’t it?  

We as humans have an idea of the way life “should be”. We set goals, ideas, expectations. 

I have shared with you previously that my life had a huge positive shift the moment I let go of goals and embraced living with intentions and noticed how life and unexpected changes could prove to be advantageous, rather than me thinking things were going wrong.  

What is wrong? I realised the only reason I thought it was “wrong” was because I had a subconscious need to control to make the “goal” I had in mind become a reality.  When in fact if I let go and let things unfold naturally with positive and consistent input from my actions I found that the natural course unfolding was actually going to gift me a far greater outcome than my original idea. This can be applied from daily situations to the big life changing ones.

So may I ask the question, what actually identifies that something is “wrong” or “not what we expected.” Is that a concept or control of the mind of where we think life, our relationships or business should be?  

Nature is always reflecting to us impermanence, change, nature grows, as does life. If we look at the philosophies of which I am trained and base my lifestyle and work on, we will see that flow, change and allowing that change to happen is a liberating way to live.  

We are in a time where holding onto who we have been in the past may hold us back. It is one of my fundamental teachings within my program how to learn and live with the understanding that we are living a blank canvas in every moment. If we hold on too tight to ideas, we may find frustration, fear and even failure may enter our inner dialogue. This sets up for “comparisonitis”is” to take hold.

If we are able to approach life from a place of impermanence and curiosity without expectations, we begin to see and live the wonder and gift that life is.

Why not give yourself a pause from pushing. Instead, have an idea of what kind of things you would like to create in your life, relationships or career.  Set some positive intentions and choices, act on them and watch the beauty of a new chapter of your life unfold.

You are empowered to choose to live freely at every moment. It is only the mind that will drag the past or future expectation into the present-now gift.

Food for thought isn’t it?

Have a great week, 

Alli xx

Become your Own Best Friend…

Have you ever really thought about being your own best friend?

I believe that spending time with yourSelf is an incredible part of truly getting to know yourself and what is important in your life. 

Like any relationship, if you do not hang out with yourself how will you get to know who you are?

The trick is, do you "spend time with yourSelf" or are you just physically alone but your mind has you everywhere else?

Interesting thought isn't it? 

Really spending quality time with yourSelf helps to ground you in your life, it enables you to know where you are uncomfortable, where you are with peace, where you would like to heal or let go of the past and where you would love to nurture and grow.

At first you might find yourself unable to even be still, that you will keep thinking of things to go and do or people to reach out too. This happens because you have forgotten what it is like to simply “hang out with yourSelf!”

Spending time each day in the quiet stillness, aware of breath and feeling grounded in the moment, is such an important self-care health promoter.  It is as necessary as brushing your teeth and showering.

How do you know if you are REALLY spending time with you?  Here it is in three easy steps…

1. Ensure you are physically alone. 😉

2. Notice where your mind is. If it is anywhere other than where you are physically then you are not spending time with yourself. Your mind is stealing the time away from you and your nervous system is burning fuel. It doesn't need to think about past or future events of conversations, it needs to hang out with you right there in that moment that is meant to be nourishing and recharging you!

3. The mind is an instrument, it simply needs guidance and “tuning” to help to create a new habit. Begin to slow this overthinking, life-stealing mind away by befriending it with giving it something to focus on…you guessed it—your breath.  Start with the simple sentence “I am breathing in….I am breathing out”….notice your surroundings, where are you sitting or laying, walking or whatever other activity you are doing.  It won’t take long, but it will take practice.

Trust me, this simple habit of “spending time with you” is an absolute game changer. 

You might even like to listen to my Inner Light Podcast, which is free, to help your mind to slow a little - Episode 3 Series 3 - “Why should we practice Mindfulness and Meditation.” Will be a great help.

If you have a mind that is blissfully quiet, easy to stop thinking, easy to fall asleep and you are full of joy, energy and enthusiasm for life, that is fantastic and you probably do not need any of the above. But if you find your mind is a little full, it is hard to concentrate, your energy is low and you feel a little numb in your everyday life, either fall into bed exhausted or struggle to fall asleep and wake up exhausted, then why not give it a try.

I’d love to know how you go. Always feel free to email me and let me know if it helped. If you want to chat about it, book a Clarity Session call so I can help you further.  You will be able to book on the Contact page…

Have an amazing week, enjoy life!

Alli

Your Actions = Your Outcomes

How has the week been going for you? Wednesday is here already!

The sentence in the subject line "YOUR ACTIONS = YOUR OUTCOMES" can sometimes make us feel a little uncomfortable.

Why? Because it is an absolute "truth bomb".

If you think about it, every single action you choose to take results in the outcome you will experience. Everything from thought patterns, self belief, trust, courage, diet, lifestyle and even habits.

We can say or think we want to do or change many different things, but unless our choices align with our desired outcomes, we will come up short and feel we can’t create the change we want. We become frustrated and even may give up.

But what if the reason you can not create or make the choice that is best for you is because you do not know how to get out of the loop that you are stuck in?

A little like trying to find your way out of the maze and you just keep hitting dead ends. Has that ever happened to you? The solution is simple, in my work I help people to stop focusing on the "walls", aka situations, in their lives and start focusing on "their feet"—thought pattern choices which way to move them, which steps to take, left, right, etc.

It is amazing when you shift your thoughts from the walls that are stopping you and instead begin breaking through and start changing tact how easy it becomes.

I encourage you to feel what it is you wish to create or change in your life. Then ask yourself, "Am I focusing on what I wish to create and making choices that align with the change? Or am I focusing on "all the things" that I think are stopping me from creating it?"

This focus on the "things that are stopping" may very well be an old mindset self-sabotage in disguise which is holding you captive in the loop and stopping you from creating the change you want.
Have an inspirational week.

Alli

It’s Ok to Love Your Life…

Hope your week has been gentle.

This week in a time where many people are hurting, I ask the question: "Do you sometimes feel guilty because your life is going ok?"

Now don’t get me wrong I know not every day can be a huge success. I too have the challenges life brings, but I hear so many women telling me they hide their successes because their girlfriend’s business isn’t doing as well, or that they don’t talk about how great their relationship is or that they love their life because friends or colleagues are struggling in theirs.

Why is there this feeling that we have to hide loving our life? Why do we feel we can’t be honest with each other?

I think it comes from that good-old, unwelcomed acquaintance “comparisonitis”. When will this guy get the hint that it is no longer welcome within our inner dialogue?

We are all aware life has ups and not-so ups; that is the nature of life. If it didn’t, we wouldn’t grow, learn, heal and thrive. We wouldn’t find resilience, compassion, trust and empathy. One of the greatest gifts we give ourselves is to live grounded in each moment. That each moment we have a new opportunity to think and to act. In that new moment we are able to empower and create.

So how can we cultivate owning and celebrating our successes and “non-successes”? (I don’t use the word failure. To me you never fail at anything. You simply hit a dead end and know you need a different tact.) I believe the answer to this is simple. Begin to acknowledge, be grateful and be prepared to celebrate our successes. Not selfishly, rub-it-in-your-face type of way, but in a way that inspires others. This will then enable you to find more gratitude and resilience when things aren't so great. It helps us to see the forever changing nature of life.

There are many amazing men and women out there doing amazing things. Don’t they deserve to be cheered for? Aren’t you worthy of that too? Can’t we celebrate together guilt free? Be there honestly when things aren't so great?

In my line of work I often find women are holding themselves back without really noticing. They have a subconscious pattern of thinking that they are not worthy of success or wealth and so they do this or that in their life or career that gives them little wins but not the bigger ones they deserve. They will be the first to help someone else achieve or celebrate success but struggle to find the ability to do so for themselves. I will share and be transparent with you and say I had this too!

Have you ever felt like you didn’t give it your full potential because you were stuck in an old way of thinking? That you just couldn’t imagine what it would be like to actually succeed and own and celebrate the success? That this feeling has held you back from trusting your idea or possible creation? If we ground in each moment, we tap into the ability to create real change...

Let me know what you think?

Have a great week sharing all the magic you are.

Alli

Intuition Does Not Shout

This week I wanted to ask - Have there been times in your life where you’ve wished you had listened to your inner voice? Or perhaps you didn’t even realise your inner voice had spoken and in hindsight thought “Oh I wish I had known!”.

I often have people come to me that have never really listened to that inner knowing because they have never heard or learned to trust it.

I believe intuition (known by many names) is one of our greatest gifts to thrive, be nourished and to live a full and successful life. Remember in my world, “Success is Authentic Living.”

To be able to trust your intuition is one thing. But like any relationship, how do you trust if you don’t have a relationship with someone to begin with!

Your intuition doesn’t shout. It is a quiet, consistent presence, there under the surface that helps you to begin to own your uniqueness, to go with your gut. To know you can do things that aren’t necessarily what others are doing and it is ok.  

Why is it ok?  

Because in my world, no one gave us the manual to life. It is our life, our story and we can write it in any way we want. It is all about perspective, belief, consistency and most of all owning and living it.

So may I ask, have you heard that inner voice of intuition? If so, are you following it? 

Is it whispering to you and your mind is telling you “No way! I can’t do that, I am not worthy of that” or “I can’t achieve that!”? 

I can tell you now if you learn to be quiet and if you learn to listen you will gain a sense of direction, guidance and inner knowing that is so strong, you will never doubt yourself again.

It isn’t always easy. I get that first hand and that is why I love to do what I do and have been happily living and sharing it for over 20 years.

So why not, try noticing your breath, learn how to encourage a quieter mind. At first it might object, but if you just let it get used to it a little more mindfulness each day through breath and slowing down the thought speed you might just catch what your intuition is whispering to you.

If you find it hard to quieten the mind why not reach out to me.

Or even look at my FREE podcasts that are aimed at helping you find the ability to slow the busy overthinking mind.

Here is the link to the Inner Light Podcasts.

Resting in the nothingness opens us to hear the inner guidance.

You don’t have to be busy to mean you are successful or worth something. Joy comes from health and health and contentment comes from joy.  It is ok to slow down in life, and it doesn’t mean you are less productive, you actually find you gain so much more.

Wishing you a wonderful and inspiring week, 

🙏🏽Alli

“The Witness” - what does it mean?

How has your  week been flowing?

I am grateful for mine, why? Because once again many of you are reaching out and letting me know these newsletters are helping you identify and deal with different aspects of inner dialogue or self-criticism that you haven’t known even existed—and if you did, how to help remove and be free of them for good. It makes me feel incredibly grateful that I get to share this with you.  

Often people ask me how my journey into all of this began. There are many little stories I could share, but the one I think will help you the most this week is to talk about “The Witness.”  

It literally is a life/game changer and is an incredible part of Vedic Philosophy which is the basis of my work.

What if I asked you, “Have you ever noticed how busy your mind is?”

If your answer is “Yes”, then my next question is “Who is noticing?”

This is incredible when you think about it. “YOU” can witness how busy YOUR MIND IS.  This means that you are able to do something about it.  

Think about it… If you notice your sunglasses are dirty, you now know you need to clean them and you know how to do it.

So, if you are able to notice you have a busy, overthinking mind, shallow breathing, anxiety, fear about the future, fear about the past, uncertainty, lack of self-worth, an out-of-control over-busy calendar, you are now in the most empowering position possible.  

YOU can begin to implement changes, positive changes that can make a real difference in your life.  

I say to patients/clients all the time, once you are aware of it, you are 95% of the way there. The next part is applying the changes.

So notice in your everyday thoughts, actions, and life if you are able to witness the habits or dialogue you wish to change. 

Begin with your breath, it is always the easiest place to start, because you are already doing it. Simply sit with and notice how it feels as you breathe in, and how it feels as you breathe out…There are many more words I could write here, but I would prefer to give you less words and let you experience feeling what happens if you simply begin with breath and practice it regularly, you can build your practice from there.

If you are unsure of what or how to make these changes, that is what I am here for!  

Happy to help in any way I can reach out via my contact page.

Have a great week.

Alli

What Message are you Sending your Family?

How have you been going? With so much in the world changing I often think of the incredible Peace Activist Mahatma Ghandi’s quote “be the change you wish to see in the world.”

I truly believe the change begins with us…..

Have you found the “little chameleon self-sabotage dialogue” there in your thought patterns?  So since it seems to be such a hot topic with all the lovely women reaching out for clarity sessions, let's delve a little deeper. 

Another self-sabotage trait many don’t realise is the concept of putting yourself last. Can you relate?  

Now you have heard me talk about “applying your own mask first” many times and the inability to practice/live this is often closely linked with guilt and self-sabotage.

What I am asking this week is: What message does it give to your family, friends and if you have little people in your life, if you are always putting yourself last? What are you teaching them about themselves?

If you think about when someone you love puts everyone else’s needs before their own, what do you say? How do you reflect to them to ensure they look after their health? Take time for them? Don’t you think having integrity is important?  You know what I mean, to actually be living the advice or suggestions you give rather than them just being words.

As women (and men of course, sorry to the guys who subscribe) I believe it is important that we all begin to look after each other by ensuring we are looking after ourselves. The minute we take our own self-care into consideration we empower ourselves and liberate others that they too are worthy of looking after themselves. We give them permission that it is not selfish and yes, even if the “comparisonitis” is flowing around, wouldn’t that be a positive one for a change? 

If a friend or family member looked at you and thought “I really like how she/he prioritises time for themselves” how would that make you feel? I’d say it would be one positive case of “comparisonitis” if ever I have seen one!

Hope this little discussion has been helpful to you.  

Until next week, take care,

Alli

Time Poor - Is it an excuse not to begin?

Welcome to this week's Blog.

Firstly, I would like to acknowledge and encourage sending prayers of peace and support to those in need near and far around our beautiful planet. Never underestimate the power you hold within and the ripple your intentions of peace can create.

Speaking of your power within to create change, remember in my newsletter/Blog last week I was discussing self-sabotage? WOW, what a response in emails. Thank you to everyone who wrote in to say it really made them think about their own inner critic and the dialogue path it takes.

Funny isn’t it how we can use these common thoughts and sentences and they really can be a "wolf in sheep's clothing" to our ability to live a happy, nourished and fulfilled life. They can literally be stealing our life away and keeping us captive in the "One day I will do that."

I find that many women I work with have spent 10, 20, 30 even 40 years living with stress, anxiety or trauma based on lack or worth, lack of belief or fear/anxiety over past or possible scenarios and it has kept them from creating, living and loving life to the fullest.

They often think life is too busy to begin; that they’ll wait until the kids have grown, the job slows down, their diary is less full or their bank balance is higher. Or they do not feel it is possible to heal from their trauma or challenges they have faced in their lives. In the meantime they do not realise how much it is costing them to stay in the self-sabotage pattern of waiting until life gets easier/slower.

Now I am not here to make you feel guilty, honestly I am not. My newsletters/Blogs are here to perhaps pull the cover off some self-sabotage thoughts that are holding you back. To help begin the discussions on topics that are often left undiscussed leaving many suffering in silence within. Ones that you may not even realise are there!

I’d love you to pay attention and notice whether you’re "waiting until…." is actually an excuse from your mind you are using to not begin something or make a change in your life.

If you find yourself saying you’re time poor, or that there is no way you could possibly create changes until life slows down… this concept might be more relevant and influential in your life than you realised.

If you would like help on how to tackle this, feel free to reach out.

I hope your week ahead is an inspirational one.

Are You Guilty of Self-Sabotage?

I want to talk about self sabotage. Have you ever heard of it?

In my field of work most people haven’t, but once we start to discover what it is and how common it is in their life they are literally blown away by the empowerment that the awareness of it provides.

We often do not realise that self sabotage is in our subconscious. It is like a chameleon, it guises itself as little sentences or habits like these….

• “I will begin that when life slows down.”

• “She deserves that new job, but I could never be that successful.”

• “I have tried every diet known…none of them work for me!”

• “Free time. Oh that is a dream and not real in my life!”

• “There is no way I could change careers or study at my age!”

The list is endless of the internal dialogue women have that is fuelled by subconscious self sabotage.

It can come from many different places. In my way of working it doesn’t matter where or why it is the unwelcome guest in your inner dialogue.  

The most important thing? Recognise it is there and then kick it for good.

The first step is to recognise it in your internal dialogue. Scratch the surface and you will usually find “comparisonitis” is usually hanging in there too! Isn’t it time for both those unwanted habitual guests of your inner conversations to stop holding you back and leave?

A simple sentence like “No, I’m not thinking that way anymore!” can really begin to open the way to removing the habits.

Try it and see how you go?

Have an inspiring week.

Alli

Is this common act putting your good health at risk?

I would like to begin this blog by firstly saying thank you for all of the replies I received to last week’s newsletter about “comparisonitis”. It appears to have hit a real nerve, so I’m going to continue exploring this topic with you over the next few weeks, and in my upcoming Masterclass. (More on that below.)

But first, as we approach the end of February, I wanted to check in with you and see whether you’ve found your best-laid plans around your health or new ideas for the year have already taken a backseat to the other demands in your life?

If so, I encourage you to revisit the blog I shared late last year about the transformation that occurred for me when I shifted from goal setting to intention setting.

I often think how funny it is that, as women, we’re always there for other people in our lives but when time gets tight, it is usually our own needs that we throw from the diary first! It is our own personal appointments or down time that gets encroached on by our family, friends or clients.

I will be the first to admit there are times when that has to happen. But if that is something that is happening to you all the time, may I gently reflect that it is only a matter of time until you run out of oxygen in your own mask and your physical, emotional and mental health will suffer.

Remember, if we don’t apply our own mask consistently we are on borrowed time of good health. 

We can “hold our breath” to help others first sometimes but if it becomes—or has become—your normal, it is time to make 2022 the game changer. 

If you’re interested in learning how I implement practises in my daily life to ensure I “apply my own mask first”, I’d love you to join me for a FREE MasterClass next month! 

During this 1-Hour Live Class I’ll be chatting with you about:

• Strategies to put an end to that dreaded “comparisonitis”. 

• Changes to help prioritise YOU in your life. 

• How to keep your intentions on track in 2022. 

When you begin to put yourself first, it is NOT selfish. Not only will it transform your health, it will transform your life, your family and your career.

If this interests you, I would be honoured to have you join me you will find the Masterclass registration page or contact page here on the website.

It's FREE and even if you can’t make it LIVE by registering you will have access to see the recording.

I look forward to supporting you at the MASTERCLASS. 

Alli

Are you guilty of “comparisonitis”?

I hope your week is flowing for you?

This week I thought I would chat about whether you’ve ever noticed how much we compare ourselves?

We compare on so many levels…….looks, parenting, business, even being a woman or a man, and whether we have it all together or not! 

My question is always “Who is judging?”. 

Scratch the surface and you will usually find it is your inner critic and lack of Self Worth.

If we are aware we have these feelings of lack, surely that must mean we realise it is time to be free of them for good?

As soon as we compare ourselves we lose ourselves.  

Are we not unique?  No one has your life and you don’t  have anyone else’s. Sure, we all have hurdles, stresses, demands and maybe even health challenges, but really our life is our own unique signature. 

If there is one thing I love to share with the people I am honoured to work with it is to own your uniqueness and then empower yourself in that growth!

Honestly, look at parenting. How can you compare how you are parenting? Aren’t your children unique with their own personalities? Aren’t you trying to encourage that in them?

If we celebrate our uniqueness then we STOP comparing. We START supporting each other at bringing to the table our individuality. 

My challenge to you is this: Can you start to recognise how often you compare? Then pay attention to how useless that comparison can be and how much it undermines your self-worth. 

One of my favourite sayings to my patients is “Success is authentic living”, meaning please don’t gauge success on how full your calendar is or bank balance but on how nourished you feel by your career, relationships and daily life. 

Do you go to bed each night with a smile on your face feeling you lived your greatest day, even if you had challenges? 

How do you feel nourished? By being you, not trying to be someone else and certainly not comparing your successes against someone else’s.

So I say 2022—let the game of “Comparisonitis” be gone! 

Let me know what you think? Has this helped you to trust your uniqueness?  Email me let me know?  

I hope so.

Or if you would like to know more tips or tools, reach out and ask me.  Remember it all begins with noticing first, then you have a choice whether to keep the habit or shift it.

Take care and have the most brilliant and bright week ahead,

Alli

Moving from Self Criticism to Empowerment

How has your week been?

In writing this I was thinking about how often we forget that life is lived through learning—through the experiences we have. No one gave us the manual to a perfect life (well I haven’t met anyone with one yet!).

Our life is meant to have its ups and not-so ups, otherwise we would not experience growth, change and, better still, creation. But have you ever just wanted that inner critic that second guesses your every move to go and speak to someone else?

Let me ask you something…

In the last 30 days, how often have you said something critical about yourself in your own inner dialogue?

How does that make you feel?

Have you ever noticed how habitual it is to have self-criticism? 

The challenge is we don’t have anyone to call us out on it or stop it! 

It can happen when we’re sitting right beside our partner, a girlfriend or our kids. That negative dialogue is going on inside our head but no one else is aware of it. 

I often share with people how when they become aware of their self-criticism, they’re 90% of the way towards stopping it. 

It opens up a world of empowered growth or truly creating permanent positive change - but it helps if you have the tools.

Awareness comes from observing and from witnessing. It is a huge part of the Vedic way of sharing.  

Do you remember in one of my previous blogs I was discussing goals-v-intentions? How is that going for you? Is there any disappointment creeping in? Has your inner critic started telling you that you have failed, already? Did you set the goal or the intention?

Importantly, is the self-criticism there or are you making small but consistent steps? 

I know I am asking lots of questions but it is in asking yourself these questions you begin to realise how much your inner dialogue is undermining your worth. It also undermines your belief that change is possible. It can cause procrastination and worse—can lead to use becoming stagnant or giving up. 

Please don’t give up! You are worthy of making the changes to live a nourished, fulfilled and successful life.

It begins with knowing you have had enough, believing in you and more importantly backing that up with the positive inner dialogue.

Aren’t we all worth living our greatest Self?

Do You Follow Your Inner Compass to Calm?

I hope your week has been kind.  

I’ve noticed in the conversations I have been having with women during my 20-minute Clarity Sessions this week that people are starting to really feel that stir from within. The inner dialogue and stirring is starting to get louder and they are realising they can no longer ignore that it is time to create change and a more nourishing life.

In the tools I share I like to refer to this as the COMPASS TO CALM. We all understand that a compass tells us the direction we are going in. Most of us understand that we wish to live a more peaceful, calm, happy and nourished life. The difference is we don’t listen or focus on the inner compass; we focus on what other people think or what is right or wrong or how do I help other people feel comfortable, happy or pleased.  You being uncomfortable with a situation is your inner compass telling you something is not aligning.

When you start to listen to your Inner Compass, you find your true way home and discover your inner calm. Life doesn’t have to change to be better.  Your ability to cope and find solutions becomes a powerful advantage!

It will lead you to a place that enables you to weather any storm of life, and leave any storm from your past behind for good. It helps you to set yourself free of the struggle and find a place inside yourself that truly helps you find your calm and it becomes your “true North”—a sanctuary of strength and empowerment.

Alli. 

The Busy Badge is Not a Badge of Honour - Here’s Why…

Okay ladies and gentlemen. I know I am not the only one to say “let’s stop wearing busy as a badge of honour” but let’s really get into the discussion!

How often do we feel like we are going under in life, overwhelmed, out of energy and just in need of a chance to catch our breath? Then why don’t we?

It only takes a change of perspective to stop getting caught in the busy struggle and instead lift your head above the struggle, take a long, deep breath, regain focus, and gain a new perspective. Then you can dive down deep into the things in life with a fresh outlook and reserves.

We can all admit life is busy. Isn’t it meant to be filled with lots of different things? Isn’t that life? Wouldn’t it be boring if it wasn’t? 

The difference is that we have become so used to this dialogue that it has become numb.  The dialogue when you meet someone on the street that goes a little like this….

“Hi, how are you?”

“Great, busy, really busy but great.”

Why do we think we have to be busy to be worth something?

What part of our mind says busy means ‘I am successful’? It is an outdated belief system. It is an outdated mode of thinking that keeps people comparing themselves with others.

“If I am not busy with a schedule that is so overfull that I feel I can't even breathe, I mustn’t be succeeding or trying hard enough in my chosen field.”

Or if you're at home with kids. If your life isn’t so busy that you feel overwhelmed, something must be wrong. Aren't mums meant to be busy, exhausted and tired? Isn’t that what many in society think is the norm?

I will never forget what it was like to all of a sudden realise how many people started telling me my life was busy ....

“Oh you let me know when you want to catch up. Your life is so busy.”  

One day I thought, “Hang on a minute! Aren’t I the one to decide if I am busy or not?!” 

So then the journey shifted for me. 

I began to realise just how much we wear “busy” as a badge of importance or success. 

That realisation came to me about 12 years ago and my life has felt so much more like it works with me, rather than against me, ever since.

I am the one who decides if life is busy or not. 

I get to choose whether I say “Yes” or “Thank you, but No.” 

If my mind begins to feel overwhelmed, I am the one that gives me my talking too! 

“Ok, Alli. Where is this not working for you? Why does it feel like pressure?”

Then I am able to shift and move things until I feel the freedom again. But the first thing I have to move is me; the way I am looking at it.

If you are organised with spare time, this does NOT mean that your business is not successful, or you’re not working hard enough, or you’re not spending enough time with your kids. It means you are LIVING your life and LOVING your family, your career and yourself. It means that you are not overwhelmed by the mind but rather able to choose and live with clarity.

So, let’s all burn that “I am busy-badge” and let’s all celebrate being successful and happy and yet authentic to ourselves.

It is one of my favourite sayings to my patients—“Success is authentic Living.”  Meaning don’t gauge your success on your calendar or bank balance but on how nourished you feel by your career, relationships and daily life.

I hope this newsletter has helped you give permission to yourself to be successful but also be nourished.  

Please remember my invitation from last week to reach out on my website for a FREE 20 Minute Clarity Session No strings attached.  Free support - it is that simple!

I know the ladies who did reach out last week told me how much the Clarity Session helped them to gain focus and receive great tips and  tools that they could use straight away.  That is why I love to share them.  They work!

There are limited spaces offered each week so if it interest you to gain help for free don’t delay in emailing me on admin@alligarison.com or reach out via my contact page here on the website.

Have an amazing week being you and remember to give yourself permission to feel nourished, to  shine bright and brilliant!

Alli.

How is January Working for You?

Are you setting those intentions? 

How are they going?

If you’ve been following my weekly newsletters over the past month or so, you might have noticed I’ve been spending  time talking about ways you can make small changes to your daily life and routine to find calm amongst the chaos. 

We’ve talked about things like: 

• Setting intentions, instead of goals. 

• Noticing how food impacts our mood. 

• Taking small steps each day to make positive changes in our lives. 

• Applying your own mask first.

• Embracing the power of your breath. 

As we settle into 2022, I’d love to support you in continuing this learning so you can create realistic changes in your day-to-day which will have an enormous, positive impact on your life.

I feel the best way I can do that is by asking how is your  “Self dialogue/Inner Critic” voice going?

We all know there is no benefit to negative talk.  But somehow it seems to still find its way into many moments in the mind.

In helping women who previously have not been able to create permanent change in their health and life.  The first thing we need to identify is the “negative Self talk.”  Negative talk sets them up for a belief system that has them feeling it is all too hard or success is for other women to achieve.  

Trust me, I get it.  That is why I say to you if you are finding it hard, feeling like you would like some extra support in making this year REALLY count, please reach out on my website for a FREE 20 Minute Clarity Session to do just that. 

No strings attached.  Free support - isn’t that refreshing!

There are limited spaces for this week so if it interests you to gain help for FREE don’t delay in emailing me on admin@alligarison.com or reach out via my contact page. 

Have an amazing week being you and remember to shine bright and brilliant!

Alli.

What do you actually do, Alli?

This week it seems a bit weird to be writing my Blog about what it is I actually do and you are reading this on my website!

But I thought maybe if you are looking at my blog for the first time and aren’t familiar with the terms Ayurvedic and Yogic Practitioner, which are part of my various qualifications, I thought it might help if I explained a little more about the foundations of what I do and share. 

I have spent a huge portion of my life sharing with people the knowledge of the amazing sciences of Ayurveda (pronounced eye-er-vay-da) and Yoga. I was so inspired to share this knowledge that I am in the process of writing a book! But I thought, okay, that’s great. But not everyone is REALLY interested in Ayurveda and Yoga... 

It got me thinking. 

What if I could share just enough to help, without it being too much information.

What if I could help people understand a little more so they could make immediate changes in their lives and gain huge positive results.

What if I could help people understand themselves a little deeper.

What if I could help people start to calm their busy minds.

So I decided to write a smaller e-book and give it away for FREE here on my website. You will find the link on my homepage.

If you are interested in better health or a calmer mind, I’d love you to take a read. 

This book will help you gain more knowledge about how this 5,000-year-old tradition is still as relevant to creating a healthier, calmer, happier you today in 2022 as it was way back then.

Ayurveda and Yoga are known as Sister Sciences and were intended to complement each other to help a person not only create but maintain optimal health physically, mentally and emotionally.  Being dual trained enables me to help people make these sometimes unknown sciences become easily integrated into your life.

Trust me, even a little bit of knowledge around these incredible gifts to humanity will literally change your world forever!

Have an amazing week being you and remember to shine bright and brilliant!

Alli.

Has the “Festive-Eating Season” Left You Feeling Sluggish & Heavy?

Happy New Year everyone! I trust 2022 has started well for you. Let’s make this your best year ever! 

If you missed out on last week’s newsletter sharing how my world changed when I swapped out New Year Goal Setting for setting INTENTIONS. Thank you to everyone who sent in emails to let me know how much you enjoyed the topic I was discussing and how looking at intentions instead of goals has already had a huge positive impact on how you are looking at 2022.

This week I wanted to focus on helping you create a lighter mood and physical body after such a busy and perhaps “festive-eating season.”

I am sure I am not telling you anything new that sugar, processed foods, lots of meat, alcohol and caffeine can leave you feeling fairly sluggish and heavy! Often this is the catalyst for creating New Year’s resolutions about having a healthier outlook and practices in the year we have just entered.

Following on from my December newsletter on this topic, I would like to chat with you about noticing. Have you noticed that you are more tired when you have more sugar? The more tired you get the more sugar you want!   Are you noticing if you feel heavy or perhaps a little dull or quick tempered during the day after having consumed more alcohol the night before?

Honestly, the moment we begin to notice how food and habits affect our mood is the moment we are empowered to do something about it.

So I am not here to be your conscience. I am here to help you reflect and then make your mind up for yourself. It is the little things we do everyday that create the greatest changes.  The foods you eat, the way you eat, how much you eat….

Ayurveda of which I am trained, is known as the medicine of daily living. We are always looking at what we do every single day to promote our health and especially our immunity. Something which is huge now with the current global situation. Build-up of toxins, overindulgence, stress can all lead to a supressed immune system.

Begin to notice and make the positive changes. No matter how small, a little less sugar, little less coffee, deeper breathing, a small change in the right direction will help you to feel the lighter aspects within. If you would like to know more tips or help reach out for a FREE 20 minute clarity session via my contact page.

Take care and begin to feel how brilliant and bright you can shine with these small suggested changes.

Alli.

Does Goal Setting Leave You Feeling Like a “Failure?” Try This…

Do you find goal setting can leave you feeling like you “failed” if you didn’t make it happen?  Try this - it will blow your mind! 

As the New Year approaches I wanted to chat to you about the concept of “GOALS”.

So often we declare the coming year will be our “Best Year Ever!” or “My Healthiest Year Yet!” We think about all of the new habits we’re going to create to make these goals a reality. 

But then (and tell me if this feels familiar?) we get a few weeks or months into the year and life has already become busy and competing priorities have distracted us from our best laid plans! The goals we’d set around self care are far from being met and we’re left either feeling disheartened or like we’re a failure. 

One of my teachings I love to share is GOALS versus INTENTION. 

Why? Because about 15 years ago I found myself feeling frustrated and overwhelmed all the time. I started to recognise that even in day-to-day living, I was setting goals that were often left unachieved, leaving me feeling defeated and as those “failed goals” kept piling up, so did the overwhelm! It was a vicious cycle. 

I thought to myself: “Okay, I can’t change the demands in my life so how can I tackle the demands differently? How do I shift this overwhelm to help me live a calmer, more content life?” 

The answer? Swapping my goals for intentions. - It changed my world!

When we live our days with intentions, we give ourselves freedom. 

When we set a “GOAL”, we have a restrictive mindset that creates a rigid definition of success or failure, right or wrong. We have a concrete idea of what the outcome needs to be and if we don’t hit it — FAILURE. This is dangerous territory and can undermine our self worth and motivation. Then we might give up altogether.

When we create an INTENTION, we have an aim, direction  or a purpose as we move through our day, but we give ourselves breathing room to adapt to the needs and wants of daily life. We also give ourselves space to respond to our own energy, rather than pushing ourselves beyond our natural flow which leads to exhaustion. 

When I began setting intentions for the day, rather than goals, my whole world changed. I became a better Mum to my four children, I became a better teacher, I became a better person in the many roles I shared. But most of all I began to enjoy life so much more. 

Everyday became an adventure rather than a list of to do’s that I must get done! No longer was I looking for a finish line where I could finally give myself permission to rest. 

I dropped the frustration and instead began to laugh at myself for how rigid my mind had my thinking! The other thing it did was help empower me to acknowledge I didn’t need to wear “busy” like a badge of honour! I had a choice and I knew how to move through my day from a place that empowered me, rather than drowning me in overwhelm.

You can still have the same intentions to create your “Best Year Ever!” or “My Healthiest Year Yet!” — or any new habits you’d like to embrace — but what you enable is more achievable accountability, more organic flow and better management of your energy. 

Don’t get me wrong, you must still work with it, but that’s the difference! You’re working with it, staying focused and finding creative ways to make that intention and your life comfortably coexist!

Here’s some examples to illustrate the difference between GOALS and INTENTIONS and how you can be creative to achieve your intended outcomes. 

• You’re wanting better health. Perhaps you’re thinking you want to lose a certain amount of weight or exercise more each week. 

  • Intention will have you moving your body more than you are now and being more conscious of how you fuel your body. It will help you acknowledge that to change your ways, any change in your daily habits will have you heading in the right direction. That could be as simple as buying more fruit instead of snacks in your weekly groceries, parking further away from work so you walk a little longer each day, or taking the family on a weekend bike ride. 

  • A goal would have you trying to adhere to a new diet and attending dedicated exercise classes on set days of the week, for example. 

While the goal enables the harsh “inner critic”, the intention enables you to become your own cheerleader!

Let me know how you go via email.

Give me some feedback how or has this has worked for you?

So my wish for you is this: Let 2021 be the year of leaving goals behind and 2022 be the year of treating yourself better, being kinder to yourself, accepting who you are and making positive intentions to create a healthier, happier you.

I’d like to take this opportunity to truly thank all of you who have blessed my life in 2021. It certainly has been a year that has seen many challenges and growth for all. We have had to adapt and truly embrace living in the moment while navigating constant change.

Shine Bright and Brilliant and may 2022 be your best year ever!  May it begin with you moving into 2022 with a sense of healing and creating, a sense of looking at things a little differently, including whether to set goals or intentions.

Take care,

Alli

Have you Ever Thought About How Does Food Affect Your Mood?

Okay, well Christmas is here and it is the time of good cheer, family, friends and of course, food!  

Have you ever thought about how food affects your mood?

Many people I work with have never associated it. It is such an interesting and empowering topic when you begin to notice!

Anything in excess is not good for us so it is moderation all the way. Easier said than done for many at Christmas and festive season time.

Here are some little hints to help you recognise and perhaps counteract any heavy mood feelings from the indulgence of the festive season.

Warm lemon water in the morning.  

As long as you do not have any allergies to lemon, warm water and a squeeze of lemon juice is a great way to help fire up your digestive system. Much of the time we over-eat in sugars or fats and this can cause our pancreas, liver and gallbladder to feel overworked as they try to filter what we have put in. This can cause us to feel really tired and lethargic.

Lemon juice and warm water really helps to clear that yuck heavy stomach feeling out. Not to mention if you enjoy a glass or two of your favourite beverage it will help your liver with the alcohol also.

Why in the morning?

Because that will be when your stomach is at its emptiest. It doesn’t have to be a huge mug, just a small glass or cup before anything else will begin a great process.

With the first mouthful, swirl it around your mouth and spit it out. This will help cleanse the palette and any toxins sitting on the tongue or teeth. (There is a great health benefit of tongue scraping but I will chat about that in another newsletter).

Also, if you find yourself feeling heavy, tired and sluggish because of too much over indulgence, a small glass of warm water and lemon juice anytime through the day will also help you to feel lighter. Sip it slowly and it will cleanse the palette also.

I plan on chatting more with you about food and mood in the New Year. It is such a fascinating topic that can really empower you to create a lighter, brighter, healthier you.

So may you and your family have a happy and peaceful festive season celebrated in a way that feels like home to you and those you love.

May 2022 be a year of healing, growth and peace for all across this beautiful Earth.

There is an old sanskrit prayer of - Lokah Samasta Sukhino Bhavantu

Translated it means May all beings be happy, healthy and with peace.

Have an amazing week sharing love, kindness, time and laughter with your family and friends!

Alli